Saying “No” to your kids is such a simple word but so many parents find it difficult to incorporate it into their discipline strategies – it’s about feeling confident in your own ability as a parent so then the ability to say “no” becomes a powerful behaviour shaping tool in your parenting toolkit! Parents […]
The Traffic Lights, the Pause Button and the Scales Techniques We all get some physical signs when we are getting wound up or stressed, so it’s helpful to teach your kids to recognise their own signs. I use the traffic lights analogy as a simple but effective […]
Do you find disciplining your children difficult? The funny thing about discipline is you only really notice it when it’s not there. As a former Deputy Head and teacher for 22 years I’ve seen loads of perfectly well behaved kids -who I’ve been teaching all day -run out into the playground to meet their parents […]
#TipsandScripts One really simple tip I use with lots of parents I coach is to change ‘If….’ to ‘When….’ So instead of saying: ‘If you brush yourself teeth you can have story’ Say: ‘When you’ve brushed your teeth you can choose a story’ Voila! Simple, quick & easy – works like magic every time! Just for […]
I bet you’ve had your child ask you many times to read a book or play a game and I bet you’ve said, “In a minute.” This usually sets you up to forget the request and you may end up not doing what you told your child you would do, which damages your relationship and […]
I’ve been recently writing quotes to go alongside my articles that will be published on the Danonino website soon around the topic of “Autonomy” & rule setting. Coincidentally I’ve also been working with a group of Mums discussing how their children think they’re “mean” parents. I’ve heard this from lots of parents from […]
The gift of self discipline Kids who are taught through loving, fair discipline are happier, feel more secure, do better at school, don’t go off the rails so easily with drugs or drink and negotiate and function in the world far more easily. Without rules and parental guidelines kids don’t develop their own inner controls […]
As a former Deputy Head and class teacher for over 25 years I discovered that it was my job to inspire kids to behave for the right reasons. Giving stickers, giving my weekly trophy and giving lots of positive praise did over time influence the children I taught to change their behaviour and learn self […]
Ms Tuff Luff believes that it’s her job as a parent to set boundaries. She sees her child’s job is to test those boundaries. She knows that kids will make mistakes because that’s normal and that’s what kids do ! She believes that her kids should be encouraged, nurtured and allowed to make mistakes without […]
In my book ‘Parenting Made Easy – How To Raise Happy Children’ in Chapter 9 I write about kids who argue back. One simple technique I teach is to change your language when kids challenge you with a … heavy sigh, eyebrows raised, pouting, moaning, groaning, hair tossing or “It’s not fair…” “They’re (sister/brother) not doing […]
Now if your parenting style is like ‘Being A Best Friend’ you believe that children like it if you act as if you are their best friend. 1. You believe that being nice and friendly makes your children like you. 2. You believe that your children are equal to you so you negotiate with them, you […]
The 3 Styles of Managing Your Child’s Behaviour There are 3 broad styles of managing children’s behaviour but what has the most influence on your child is your confidence, style and personality. Your style affects the atmosphere, mood and tone in your home. Your style is a blueprint for what your children copy and learn […]
I think it helps to shift your perspective away from damaging your child’s self esteem to looking at the problem. Here’s a simple way to do that – just say inside your head when you are getting stressed or wound up…. The problem is the problem – not my child. Detach the behaviour from your […]
Successful parents have a wide range of options open to them. Over the years (through often trial and error) they have collected skills, strategies and techniques that they have stored away for possible use. A metaphor I use a lot when I’m giving my Lunch & Learn One Hour Talks is to imagine that you are […]
In my book called “Parenting Made Easy” I write about what to do with an attention seeking child. This is just a taster of what I cover in Chapter 9 which is all about getting your little darlings to behave easily, also you can download my comprehensive MP3 which bursting with my tips, techniques and […]
