The Behaviour Blogs Series ~ Part 3 The Problem is NOT Your Child……

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I think it helps to shift your perspective away from damaging your child’s self esteem to looking at the problem.

Here’s a simple way to do that – just say inside your head when you are getting stressed or wound up….

The problem is the problem – not my child.

Detach the behaviour from your child.

You love your child, not their behaviour.

Become a Dectective to see what’s beneath the behaviour.

Work out which of my Positive Pillars  is missing:

Is your child not feeling connected to you?

Are they not feeling capable & competent or able to have some influence in some way? Do you need to give them a more independence?

Are they not feeling important or significant so are acting up to get your attention?

Are they lacking feeling brave & courageous to try something & they need your reassurance?


If you’d like to have more of my tools, tips and techniques from Toddler to Teen download my “Secrets To Well – Behaved Kids” MP3 and Ideas Book instantly !






The Behaviour Blogs Part 1 ~ Do you find disciplining your children difficult?

The Behaviour Blogs Part 2 ~ Updating Your Toolkit

The Behaviour Blogs Part 3 ~ The problem is not your child……

The Behaviour Blogs Part 4 ~Three Styles of Managing Behaviour

The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 5 Mr Best Friend

The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 6 Kids Who Argue Back

The Behaviour Blogs Part 7 ~ Ms Tuff Luff

The Behaviour Blogs Part 8 ~ Influence your kids rather than control them

The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 9 ~ If you don’t set boundaries for your kids who will ?


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