The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 6 ~ Kids Who Argue Back

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In my book ‘Parenting Made Easy – How To Raise Happy Children’ in Chapter 9 I write about kids who argue back.

One simple technique I teach is to change your language when kids challenge you with a … heavy sigh, eyebrows raised, pouting, moaning, groaning, hair tossing or “It’s not fair…” “They’re (sister/brother) not doing it, why are you picking on me…?” type response.

It will take quite a bit of practice but try saying..

“Maybe … and”

Instead of  “Maybe …. but”

This is a powerful strategy as it defuses the conflict by agreeing with your child, “and” is a less confrontational word so it minimises you getting into more arguments.

It also allows you to acknowledge what your child has said but not be influenced by it so you can  all to move on.

If you use a matter of fact voice and remember what follows the “and” is what you want them to do….  for example: 

Maybe Sophie wasn’t listening and I still need you to tidy your toys, do your homework, lay the table …..”

Maybe you were….. and I still  need you to find your school shoes, get your lunch bag, or brush your hair……”

Maybe they do and in our house we have these rules so time for bed, I want you home at this time, it’s time for you to end your computer game”

 This is an amazingly simple but brilliant technique so give it a go and see enjoy  happens….

If you’d like lots more of my tips, tools and techniques simply and easily…..

Download  my “The Secret To Well Behaved Kids” MP3 which will give you lots of my tools, tips and techniques all at your fingertips…..


The Behaviour Blogs Part 1 ~ Do you find disciplining your children difficult?

The Behaviour Blogs Part 2 ~ Updating Your Toolkit

The Behaviour Blogs Part 3 ~ The problem is not your child……

The Behaviour Blogs Part 4 ~Three Styles of Managing Behaviour

The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 5 Mr Best Friend

The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 6 Kids Who Argue Back

The Behaviour Blogs Part 7 ~ Ms Tuff Luff

The Behaviour Blogs Part 8 ~ Influence your kids rather than control them

The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 9 ~ If you don’t set boundaries for your kids who will?


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