“The Phoenix Stage.” Here are some questions to ask yourself if you think you’re ready for another relationship after becoming divorced or separated: Am I coping and content with my life at the moment? Am I living in the present or in the past? Have I learned to be alone without experiencing loneliness? Can I […]
I often find that I get clients coming to see me after Christmas about how to separate after spending more time together during the festive season. Christmas acts as a catalyst for change and the New Year offers a new beginning for many. It is a fact that it’s not divorce or separation, in itself […]
I was delighted to have been interviewed by Scott Docherty, on how my role as a coach helps families through the challenging time of divorce. This is a series of interviews with CALM Scotland mediators and others connected with mediation. The interviews are hosted by Scott C. Docherty, an accredited lawyer mediator who practises in […]
One of the main worries of parents who are going through a divorce is how to tell the children about what is going to happen and what to actually say to them. Children naturally fear that they will lose one of their parents in a divorce or that their parents will abandon them. They also […]
Online Dating Scams: How to Tell If You Are Being Baited by a Catfish One of my lovely clients had been through the mill during her divorce but had ‘done the work’ on herself, analysed herself over time, turned the corner and was in what I call ‘The Phoenix Stage’ and decided to explore […]
Family break up, separation or divorce is never easy. Children can feel isolated, left behind or excluded from decisions and they often tell me that they often they feel unheard. Of course this is not intentional but stressed, grieving or angry parents are struggling to cope themselves. Here is an lovely video from Scott C […]
I love the magic of Twitter and how it brings me such wonderful people, doing such wonderful things. Today a beautiful book arrived from Joanna Rowland from the US called, ‘Always Mom, Forever Dad’ In today’s world, more and more children have parents who live separately. As these children move between homes, they […]
Here is a recent Case Study: Sandra came to see me when she was 3 years into building her new life after her divorce but she was still traumatised by the financial meltdown her husband had left her in. She was still proving to herself that Mrs. Coker, her Maths teacher, was wrong when she […]
If you missed it, last night on Fink Conversation Cards Facebook page we held a special Divorce Q&A Special with a great mix of divorce specialists. We had Sue Atkins from Sue Atkins The Parenting Expert, Nicola Ingram from Family Advisory Bureau, Chris Longbottom from Shoosmiths, Aleks Binder from Dads For Life and Nicky […]
I have launched a whole new series of Conversational Cards around Divorce for families and children called “Talking To Children About Divorce” which you can buy here so I was delighted to have been invited to The House of Commons on Monday night to launch Dialogue First – to discuss the impact of family breakdown on […]
We are Not Meant To Do It All By Ourselves Going through a divorce is painful, frightening and emotionally exhausting and making meaningful changes in our lives can be tough when we try to do it all by ourselves. We had dreams when we got married, we had a vision of how our […]
Today The Times revealed a new distressing survey ‘The Shocking Cost of Divorce on Children.’ Divorce has a devastating impact on the children of divided couples, leading to poor examination results and driving them to abuse alcohol or drugs. Join me on live on Channel 5 News. Divorce is an ugly word. And when children are […]
I totally agree with pensions secretary Iain Duncan Smith when he says businesses must be better at identifying people struggling with ‘family break up’ so they do not end up leaving work. Companies should intervene and help employees going through marital break ups to prevent them ‘crashing out’ of work and ending up on benefits, Iain Duncan […]
I support women emotionally going through the harrowing time of divorce through my workshops, 1-2-1 personal coaching calls or group sessions but one area that is foremost on their mind and keeps them tossing and turning at night is how to handle their finances. Here is an article from an old school friend of mine […]
I love the idea of a Bucket List – a list of things you want to do before you ‘Kick The Bucket’ and leave this world. I wrote mine years ago and I take the list out from time to time to add new things I want to see, hear or experience as I […]
