Divorce is a process NOT an event – my technique to make the transition easier for your children.
Despite divorce being on the increase around the world, parents often feel at a loss when searching for practical support. They also feel overwhelmed, confused, afraid, resentful, or completely frozen in panic about how to handle the changes in their family’s way of life. Sometimes this fear manifests itself as animosity, which turns the whole […]
Rise and Thrive: Supporting Single Parents Through Divorce and Beyond.
Going through a breakup or becoming newly single while also becoming a parent can be a challenging experience. Here are four pieces of advice to help you navigate this situation: Prioritise Self-Care: It’s crucial to prioritise self-care during this transition. Take time for yourself to heal and process your emotions. Seek support from friends, family, […]
Going Through Divorce or Separation? Make the #ParentsPromise
Parents Promise Every year, an estimated 280,000 children, a similar number to the size of the population of Newcastle, experience family separation. It’s one of the greatest, least-recognised health risks to our children. The Positive Parenting Alliance is a group of organisations, and individuals, who believe that all children deserve the most positive experience possible […]
My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. Is that normal?
My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. One of the many questions I get asked when I am working with families going through a divorce is: “My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. Does that mean they are OK? “ Divorce is usually a difficult time for all family […]
The Top 5 Benefits Of Using A Positive Parenting Profile in Divorce.
MARY HUGHES one page profile I’ve used Positive Profiles in my work for many years and can’t rave enough about their usefulness for improving communication, relationships, a child’s self esteem and self confidence More recently I have been using positive profiles posters to help children and families going through the often challenging and traumatic […]
Sue Atkins has published some simple, inexpensive and practical Conversation Cards to help children and families talk about Divorce.
Divorce and Children: How to Answer Those Tough Questions Divorce is an extremely challenging, stressful and overwhelming time in family life and I have created, what I feel to be an incredibly important set of conversational cards, around supporting children and families going through a divorce. I […]
Is it a good idea to announce your divorce on social media?
Is it a good idea to announce your divorce on social media? Whether your surfing Instagram, hovering over Face Book or agonising over your chosen hashtag on Twitter, social media is here to stay, but is it a good idea to announce your impending divorce on all these platforms? I work with many parents […]
Feeling Overwhelmed? Here’s 8 Simple Steps To Decision Making During Divorce.
Here is the way I help my clients going through a divorce to make better, empowering decisions. This simple process helps to lessen the feeling of overwhelm during this stressful life changing event where you have to make so many important decisions all at the same time. Grab a cup of coffee and a paper […]
When Homelife Changes – Finding a New Path After Divorce
Yasmin Patel’s One Page Profile I’ve used one-page profiles in my work for many years and with my own family and can’t rave enough about their usefulness for improving communication, relationships, a child’s self esteem and self confidence More recently I have been using one-page profiles to help children and families going through […]
Divorce Step by Step – What the Children Think
In this Divorce Step By Step video I discuss the importance of what the children think as you go through the divorce process. You may be surprised about their take on events. Talking & more importantly listening and being there for your children at this time of huge change is important. I created my ‘Divorce […]
‘I can’t STAND my Ex’ – But Here’s Why It’s IMPORTANT To Work Together During Your Divorce.
Most parents don’t know the options that are available to divorcing couples rather than the aggressive ‘Going to Court’ option. Most solicitors in fact don’t favour taking your case to Court as it is expensive and can be very damaging to everyone in the family, particularly your children. Mediation is a good option – […]
A Very Modern Divorce: the new rules of splitting up
In England and Wales, there are still only five ways to get a divorce and three of those involve living separately for at least two years. Divorce in the UK can be messy, drawn out and extremely painful for the whole family. But it doesn’t have to be like this. As Nigel Shepherd, chair of […]
What I need from my Mum and Dad – A child’s list of wants and needs during divorce.
One of the main worries of parents who are going through a divorce is how to tell the children about what is going to happen and what to actually say to them. Children naturally fear that they will lose one of their parents in a divorce or that their parents will abandon them. They also […]
Parents who stay together ‘for the sake of the children’ are not doing the best thing for their youngsters’ mental health.
I was very interested to read in The Mail on Sunday about new findings published by Swedish researchers and supported by University College, London around couples ‘staying together’ 15,000 schoolchildren were examined to see how divorce affected them and the study found disparity in children’s mental health due to their living situation. Couples who stay married […]
How To Take The Headache Out Of Telling Your Children That You’re Divorcing.
On Friday 8th January I am launching a new series of free Divorce videos called Divorce Step by Step. Divorce Step By Step has been set up specifically to help you address the range of issues and matters you have to face when going through a divorce. I have been through the process myself […]