Parents who stay together ‘for the sake of the children’ are not doing the best thing for their youngsters’ mental health.

I was very interested to read in The Mail on Sunday about new findings published  by Swedish researchers and supported by University College, London around couples ‘staying together’

15,000 schoolchildren were examined to see how divorce affected them and the study found disparity in children’s mental health due to their living situation.

Couples who stay married ‘for the sake of the children’ are not necessarily doing the best thing for their youngsters’ mental health.

Children who spend time with each of their divorced parents are no more likely to suffer from mental health problems than children of parents who remain together, Swedish researchers have concluded. The researchers from Stockholm University’s Centre for Health Equity Studies found negligible differences in the mental health of children who lived with each parent in turn.

Sensitive parenting, and predictability of everyday life is important when raising children. This research implies that it is possible for parents to provide these features also if they do not live together.’

I also found the fact that there was no suggestion that children fared better or worse depending on the gender of the parent they lived with interesting too.

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Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3402583/Couples-stay-sake-children-not-doing-best-thing-youngsters-mental-health.html#ixzz3xWAG34Ap
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