Christmas is a catalyst. I often find that I get many clients coming to see me after Christmas about how to separate after spending more time together at Christmas. Christmas acts as a catalyst for change and the New Year offers a new beginning for many. My article Handling Divorce Positively taken from my “Raising […]
Dear Sue I’m worried about Christmas as I’m recently divorced. My kids are still reeling from the changes. What is your advice? Liz Jackson, New Addington, Surrey Most parents worry about this – so you’re not alone The question most co-parent’s worry about is ‘Will I be able to see my children over the […]
This week I’ve been writing the module for Nannies for my ‘Navigating Family Transitions: A CPD Course for Professionals Supporting Children, Parents & Families through Divorce, Separation, or Family Breakup’ Course. Supporting families through divorce can be challenging but rewarding for nannies as they play a really important role in supporting children through the process […]
Your confidence can take a big hit after a divorce or separation as I remember first hand, and building self-confidence after a divorce or separation can be challenging, but it’s certainly possible – it just takes time to recover from such a major life change. It can take up to 18months to 2 years to […]
Positive co-parenting is essential for the well-being of your children after a separation or divorce. It’s not always easy but it is important so here are some ideas to help. Here are some tips to help you co-parent effectively and create a positive environment for your children: Put Your Child’s Needs First: Remember that your […]
I’m writing a Continued Professional Development Course (CPD) supporting parents, children & families, and the people who work with them around divorce. Supporting pupils who are going through a divorce requires a thoughtful and sensitive approach. Here are some tips and advice for teachers to navigate this situation: Open Communication: Maintain an open line of […]
Separation and divorce are traumatic events for families. My journal is designed to help children express, explore and understand some of the strong emotions that they may be feeling and to help them process the divorce for themselves. Keeping a Journal is a very simple, but powerful way to support children. As caring adults, we […]
I’m hooked on the DCI Jack Logan books by JD Kirk. In ‘Here Lie The Dead’ Detective Sergeant Hamza Khaled is pondering taking an IT job within the police and argues with DC Tyler Neish about why he’s so tempted, ‘I’ve seen it happen to dozens of officers. We both have. Break-ups. Divorces. The job […]
Stepfamilies have a bad image. Think of Snow White’s jealous stepmother or Cinderella’s ugly sisters or at the other end of the spectrum, picture the unrealistically positive stepfamily, such as the Brady Bunch. But real life is more complicated that either of those stepfamily models and stepchildren have to come to terms with lots of […]
Putting your children first I’ve been recently working with a couple who are divorcing and we were looking at how to handle the new roles that both these parents now face whilst going through the transition. One area I discussed with them was accepting that their ex has a continued role to play in their […]
Your Parenting Plan This is an example of the sort of basic parenting plan that I help the parents I work with to create, as they go through the transition of divorce. It will help you think through the numerous issues related to co parenting your children from now on – it is designed to […]
This month I have been working with a wonderful group of parents who are all going through a divorce and one of their main worries was how to tell the children about what was going to happen and what to actually say to them. Children naturally fear that they will lose one of their […]
MARY HUGHES one page profile I’ve used Positive Profiles in my work for many years and can’t rave enough about their usefulness for improving communication, relationships, a child’s self esteem and self confidence More recently I have been using positive profiles posters to help children and families going through the often challenging and traumatic […]
Father’s Day weekend is upon us, and whether you feel it’s all just a marketing gimmick it’s still important to take time out to celebrate, but for many divorced dads, the day can serve as a tough reminder of the most painful loss or saddest change from your divorce: time with your kids. Divorce affects […]
It’s vital that you DON’T make your children feel that they have to take sides. It’s bad enough that some family and friends feel that they have to. In this video I talk to you about how your divorce may affect the relationship you have with Family & Friends. What have you come up against […]
