Your confidence can take a big hit after a divorce or separation as I remember first hand, and building self-confidence after a divorce or separation can be challenging, but it’s certainly possible – it just takes time to recover from such a major life change.
It can take up to 18months to 2 years to feel you are back up and bouncing.
Here are some steps to help:
Take time to understand your feelings & thoughts about the divorce. Acknowledge your emotions & allow yourself to grieve if necessary.
- Seek Support:
Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist or parenting coach to talk about your feelings. Sharing your experiences can provide emotional support & perspective.
Prioritise self-care activities like exercise, healthy eating & getting enough rest. Taking care of your physical health can boost your emotional well-being.
- Set Goals:
Establish achievable goals for yourself, both short-term and long-term. These can help you regain a sense of purpose & accomplishment. Be kind & gentle on yourself.
- Rediscover Interests:
Reconnect with hobbies & interests that you may have set aside during your relationship. Doing things you love can boost self-esteem.
- Challenge Negative Thoughts:
Practice positive self-talk & challenge any negative beliefs you may have about yourself. NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) or Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping) can be really helpful for this I have found with my clients.
Be kind & patient with yourself. Understand that healing takes time & it’s okay to have setbacks.
Rebuild your social network by spending time with supportive friends and making new connections. Socialising can help improve your self-esteem & feeling of being connected again.
- Professional Help:
If your self-confidence struggles persist, consider seeking therapy or counselling. A mental health professional can provide guidance & support.
- Personal Growth:
Use this time to focus on personal growth & self-improvement. I call it ‘doing the work.’ Learning new skills or expanding your education can all help boost your confidence.
Remember that healing and regaining self-confidence is a process that varies for each person. Be patient with yourself and celebrate small victories along the way.
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