1. Stop dwelling on the all the wrongs – who did what, who’s to blame and what you wish you had done differently. 2. Express & release your feelings, but don’t drown in them – give yourself a ten minute time limit – and make that a habit. 3. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you […]
I run a two hour workshop called “How To Tell Your Children You’re Divorcing – Presenting a United Front” (Simply call me on 01883 818329 to book your 1-2-1 session) as I’ve worked with hundreds of parents going through divorce and one of the main worries is how to tell their children about what is […]
As my Decree Nisi came through this morning in the post I found it liberating.. Letting go and moving on is a process in my opinion – easy to say – VERY tough to do. I am experiencing first hand the stress of dumping, ebay – ing, selling & donating the last 21 years […]
I received my Decree Nisi today and it felt such a relief, so liberating and so freeing ( if that’s a word!) It also made me realise that the time I was dumped by my boyfriend Matt King at St Mary’s College when I was 19 was not the life changing event I […]
This is the best article I have ever read on life after divorce. What Smart Women Do After Divorce by Alison Patton Family lawyer and mediator & author of the blog Lemonade Divorce The journey is a painful one, but the suffering is optional – and the reason I know this is because I have gone […]
Here is a guest post from Austin Chessell who is a mediating family lawyer. He explains how children can benefit from involvement in divorce mediations and provides some useful resources. New resources and services available to children whose parents are separating This article was first published by Solicitors Journal (www.solicitorsjournal.com) on 5th February 2013 and […]
As regular readers of my blog will know it is exactly a year ago tonight that I found out on Facebook that my husband of 21 years was “in love” with a 35 year old Romanian woman who lived in Sweden. My kids bought me yellow roses and cooked a meal for me with chocolate […]
I’m pleased to see that separating couples will be legally required to find out about ways to settle disputes away from the courtroom, under new laws currently going through Parliament. New figures show that 124,420 couples filed for divorce in 2012 but instead of potentially long and costly court hearings couples opted for mediation – […]
The thing is: Obstacles aren’t there to impede you from getting to your destination; they’re there to prepare you for it. Every moment of the waiting is preparing you for what you’re waiting for. Every person who breaks your heart is preparing you for the one who never will. And every challenge, detour, obstacle […]
I’ve been recently working with a group of parents going through the turbulent times of a divorce and I asked them to remember participating in or watching a tug-of-war competition. You like me can probably remember both sides sweating, tugging, pulling, wrestling and expending huge amounts of energy but not really getting very far […]
In the film “The Interpreter”, the character played by Nicole Kidman says, “Vengeance is a lazy form of grief.” If you like me, are totally honest you’ve probably had moments where you’ve silently fantasied about your ex’s life being a total disaster after you’ve split up no matter who was to blame or […]
As regular readers of my blog know I am currently going through a divorce after 21 years and I have been quite surprised how harrowing I have found it despite all my positive psychology and NLP Training. Here’s an interesting article in The Daily Mail and a new idea I had walking my dogs today ……. […]
As regular readers of my blog will know I am recently separated from my husband after 21 years and I know first hand how challenging, stressful and overwhelming this transitional period of life really is. I have been running my “6 Week “Separation – Putting Your Children First” Coaching Programme” for many years now using […]
Whenever I find myself going through a really challenging time I go into survival mode. After separating from my husband after 21 years I found myself withdrawing into my shell, hibernating – and focusing on just surviving the challenging times. I closed down. For those of you who have experienced this type of loss, you […]
If Las Vegas is the self-proclaimed wedding capital of the world, then London may want to lay claim to the opposite title: the divorce capital of the world. On Sunday, The Guardian reported that a string of pricey divorce settlements in favor of less wealthy spouses have solidified London’s reputation as the go-to city […]
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