This week will be all about Valentine’s Day and can be a time of great romance or great pain. Many people put their children first and of course while this is necessary and honourable is it at the expense of your own relationship? I remember a great friend of my Mum and Dad’s Nuala […]
Keeping the Glow with your Partner. Although most of us desire a healthy relationship it’s surprising how many of us don’t really understand what makes love survive long term. Most of us are bombarded with images of love and sex in magazines, TV adverts, and on the radio but often they idealise, romanticise or trivialise […]
Keeping the Glow with your Partner This article gives you complete permission to let it all out – all the frustrations, resentments, anger, disappointments, annoyances and pain you feel for your partner at times. Don’t hold back – give it 110% of your energy – this is a no holds barred worksheet! This may feel […]
One reason why relationships get stale, go off the boil and become boring is that couples get stuck in a rut of routine and having children often takes away from the spontaneity that keeps love alive, fresh and expanding and growing. Doing the same things over and over again becomes uninteresting, tedious and sometimes depressing […]
In keeping with this week’s theme on romance and relationships, here’s today’s story from my never ending notebook and everlasting pencil. The pioneering biologist Bruce Lipton found that the cells in your body are always in one or two modes: protection or growth. Basically, in fear–mode or in love-mode. Whenever we feel threatened or […]
No matter where you are in your relationship, it’s important and healthy to regularly check in on it from time to time to keep it fresh, keep it growing and keep it alive. By asking some simple but thought provoking questions like: Where are you? Where are they? Where is the relationship as a whole? […]
Keeping the Glow with your Partner. Do you want more attention, more respect, more help with the kids, more hugs, more romance, more surprises, more time together, more intimacy, and more fun? Someone to babysit, iron the shirts, help make the dinner sometimes or hang up the towels in the bathroom? Then ask. “But I […]
Although most of us desire a healthy relationship it’s surprising how many of us don’t really understand what makes love survive long term. Most of us are bombarded with images of love and sex in magazines, TV adverts, and on the radio but often they idealise, romanticise or trivialise love. So it’s hard to […]
I have a client who is going through a divorce and is feeling maudlin about Valentine’s Day. ‘Valentine’s Day is hard enough’ she said ‘when you’re couple & married’ (talk about pressure!) — ‘but when you’re going through a divorce it’s going to be hell!’ So I’ve been pondering how to have fun on […]
Lots of us withdraw at the first sign of conflict, suppress things, withhold things & wait for people to figure out what’s wrong with us, like a mind reader, instead of just being honest about what’s going on. It’s more helpful to ask yourself: ‘What am I actually upset about? What am I actually feeling? […]
Just relax and breathe deeply and slowly for a few moments and think about the most romantic, passionate, sensual and loving moments in your life. What were you doing….. seeing…… hearing and feeling in those magic moments? What would you be willing to do, or give up doing, to experience these beautiful moments regularly and […]
As it’s Valentine’s Day just around the corner I thought it would be a good opportunity to pause when you are stressed, frustrated, angry or tired and to just STOP and ask yourself: What would love do now ?
The pioneering biologist Bruce Lipton found that the cells in your body are always in one or two modes: protection or growth. Basically, in fear–mode or in love-mode. Whenever we feel threatened or judged we immediately go into fear –mode and close down, defend and shut ourselves off. Whenever we feel safe, we reach out, […]
