Divorce is always difficult for the whole family but if you do find that you are heading for a divorce here are some things to consider if you have a child with additional needs. Things to Consider Divorce is a difficult time for all family members, but especially for your children. A child that has […]
How the news hits a three-year-old is very different to how a 15-year-old understands and reacts to the news – that’s why it’s important to include your teenager in your discussions around your contact arrangements where it feels appropriate, to avoid resentment building up between all of you. Of course, don’t hand over all the […]
One of the hardest things you will have to do as a divorced parent is to encourage your children to go with your ex when they don’t want to go, particularly as they turn into teens and want to spend more time with their friends. But as a parent I think it’s really important that […]
Putting your children first I’ve been recently working with a couple who are divorcing and we were looking at how to handle the new roles that both these parents now face whilst going through the transition. One area I discussed with them was accepting that their ex has a continued role to play in their […]
I’m delighted to have been invited to write some articles for Dad Info – a wonderful website for Dads and Step Dads. Today here is my article on what the Americans call ‘Blended Families’ but what I like to call ‘Slow Burning Casserole Families’ 🙂 ‘Bringing together two separate families is a process, not an […]
It is a hugely emotional time when you split up with your partner, and that makes it even harder to make sensible financial decisions. Rather than thinking through options and making a long-term financial plan, people often feel desperate to end the misery of an unhappy relationship as soon as possible. Although this is […]
The law affecting families in England and Wales is changing. The most important element of no fault divorce is, of course, the removal of fault or blame from the divorce process. Under the new laws, couples will be able to get divorced solely on the basis that the marriage has broken down, without needing to cite […]
I’ve been catching up on ‘Coldfeet’ before the new season starts as I never watched it the first time it was on, and what strikes me watching and following the lives of these 3 couples is just how untidy life can be. Relationships are never easy at the best of times. Despite all our best […]
This month I have been working with a wonderful group of parents who are all going through a divorce and one of their main worries was how to tell the children about what was going to happen and what to actually say to them. Children naturally fear that they will lose one of their […]
Divorce is stressful for parents and children alike and although reactions will depend on a child’s age, temperament, and the circumstances surrounding the split, many children feel sad, frustrated, angry, and anxious — and it’s not uncommon for them to become naughty at home or at school because of those feelings. Fortunately, you can help […]
My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. One of the many questions I get asked when I am working with families going through a divorce is: “My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. Does that mean they are OK? “ Divorce is usually a difficult time for all family […]
I have a Divorce Coaching Programme that is designed to support you through the difficult time of separation and divorce that gives you clarity, direction and confidence. Conflict damages everyone – particularly your children. Here is an article in The Daily Mail about handling divorce through the Collaborative Process. After being told by her husband […]
I work with many parents going through separation, divorce or troubled times as I run a 6 week Coaching Programme: 1-2-1 Divorce Support for Families Going Through Family Conflict, Separation or Break Up One of the areas I help parents explore first is the very important area of Communication. The way parents exchanged information, shared […]
I’m delighted to be published in Dad Info a super website for Dads and Step Dads. Here’s my article. Stepfamilies have a bad image. Think of Snow White’s jealous stepmother or Cinderella’s ugly sisters or, at the other end of the spectrum, the unrealistically positive stepfamily, the Brady Bunch. Real life is more complicated than […]
I’ve been send this question from Dads Info a super website for Dads and Step Dads. Different parenting styles are causing our family friction, what can I do? One of the main problems within step families is who disciplines whose children… The simple thing is to sit down with a cup of coffee and a pen […]
