Simple Tips for Coping with Separation and Divorce.
I always tell my clients that divorce is a process not an event and that it is OK to feel that you are wading through treacle some days and feeling more empowered and hopeful in others. It often feels like you take three steps forward and then one step back as getting used to […]
Why Dads Matter in Divorce.
I’m working with a very sad, distressed and rather defeated Dad going through a divorce and I have been supporting him by championing him, believing in him, and encouraging him to focus all his energy on not fighting the old, but on building the new. I simply ask the ‘better’ questions that help him […]
Sue Atkins has published some simple, inexpensive and practical Conversation Cards to help children and families talk about Divorce.
Divorce and Children: How to Answer Those Tough Questions Divorce is an extremely challenging, stressful and overwhelming time in family life and I have created, what I feel to be an incredibly important set of conversational cards, around supporting children and families going through a divorce. I […]
The ‘Next Normal’ – Advice for Handling CHANGE
Handling change is one of life’s greatest challenges and is a major element in my work with parents & my intention is to help parents handle change positively and with clarity, direction and confidence. Change is inevitable and although it’s perfectly natural to resist the changes in your life and feel overwhelmed and anxious about […]
Divorce From Your Child’s Perspective. Things To Think About.
Most parents don’t know the options that are available to divorcing couples rather than the aggressive ‘Going to Court’ option. Most solicitors in fact don’t favour taking your case to Court as it is expensive and can be very damaging to everyone in the family, particularly your children. Mediation is a good option – […]
Divorce isn’t about winners and losers. It’s about working out a way to handle the separation with dignity and compassion and minimising the disruption to your children. Here Are My Top 10 Tips.
Whoever you are, no matter how famous or wealthy or whatever age you are, getting divorced is a major life change. It is stressful, challenging and painful. Here is an article I have written to help. Please share it on Twitter or Facebook or forward to a friend who might find it helpful. It’s also National […]
‘How Much Will My Divorce Cost?’ Everything You Need To Know.
Finances – This is the first video concerning the finances of a divorce. What’s it going to cost and what do you need to think about as you go through the divorce process. I’ve recently launched a new series of free Divorce videos called -> Divorce Step by Step. Divorce Step By Step has […]
Don’t Stew – Ask Sue: ‘My wife and I are getting divorced and I’m moving out. What’s the best way to talk to our children, aged 10 and eight, about what’s happening and the future?’
“My wife and I are getting divorced and I’m moving out. What’s the best way to talk to our children, aged 10 and eight, about what’s happening and the future?” This is an important time in everyone’s life as everything is about to change and your children need you to have clarity, direction and confidence […]
Here’s A Quick & Simple Way To REALLY Listen To Your Children During Divorce.
Communicating with children of any age is a key parenting skill, as it helps build your child’s self-esteem and confidence and learning to really listen to your child as you go through your divorce is crucial. Just as talking to your children is vital, no less important is the art of listening to them when […]
Divorce can seriously damage your health. Here’s ways to cope.
You won’t be surprised to learn that many studies have shown, that divorce can dramatically reduce a woman’s self-esteem, their confidence and their mental wellbeing as naturally, divorcing women are undergoing very high levels of strain and stress during this time. This study carried out by Bharti Sharma and published in ‘Journal of the Indian […]
Is it a good idea to announce your divorce on social media?
Is it a good idea to announce your divorce on social media? Whether your surfing Instagram, hovering over Face Book or agonising over your chosen hashtag on Twitter, social media is here to stay, but is it a good idea to announce your impending divorce on all these platforms? I work with many parents […]
Fail safe ways to help children feel nurtured, supported and heard through divorce, separation and break up.
Helping children feel nurtured, supported and heard through divorce, separation and break up. Divorce is stressful for parents and children alike and although reactions will depend on a child’s age, temperament, and the circumstances surrounding the split, many children feel sad, frustrated, angry, and anxious — and it’s not uncommon for them to become naughty […]
What’s best a ‘Clean Break’ Agreement or ‘Regular Maintenance’ after your divorce?
I was asked to comment on BBC Radio Surrey & Sussex about a divorced man who has been told by the Court of Appeal to give his ex-wife more money after she spent all the lump sum she was awarded. Maria Mills, 51, received a £230,000 payout in 2002 but was in debt after “unwise” investments, […]
Do you try harder in your relationship because your parents split up?
Younger couples who come from broken homes have led a backlash against divorce, a report claimed yesterday. Lawyers said declining divorce rates over the past 20 years are the result of the bitter experiences of children whose parents parted when divorce was at its peak in the 1980s and early 1990s. Now married and possibly […]
Feeling Overwhelmed? Here’s 8 Simple Steps To Decision Making During Divorce.
Here is the way I help my clients going through a divorce to make better, empowering decisions. This simple process helps to lessen the feeling of overwhelm during this stressful life changing event where you have to make so many important decisions all at the same time. Grab a cup of coffee and a paper […]