I have been working with two families going through the process of divorcing and what has struck me is how the news that Mummy & Daddy are separating can vary depending on the age of the children. How the news hits a 3 year old is very different to how an 11 year old understands […]
In this video I talk to you about how to tell your employer that you are going through a divorce. Lots of people I work 1-2-1 with struggle with what to say and worry how it will impact on their work colleagues perception of them. Also I talk to you about talking to family and […]
In this Divorce Step by Step video I talk you through the legal stuff. It’s REALLY important that you take your time to find a really good lawyer that you can relate to. It’s important to keep things out of Court if at ALL possible as it gets messy, aggressive and EXPENSIVE and the only […]
I always say to the parents that I work 1-2-1 with that ‘Divorce is a process NOT an event.’ I also say that it’s not the divorce that damages children, but the level of conflict they experience, that can have long term repercussions, even into their own adult relationships, so getting this part of the […]
Looking after your own health and wellbeing is absolutely crucial in being able to look after your children through this really challenging process. In this video I personally guide you through a very important aspect of the divorce process – your own personal well-being. How will a divorce affect your own health and well-being? Take […]
Separation and divorce are traumatic events for families. Under such pressure and stress your energy for putting boundaries around your kids can seem like a step too far as you are so tired, but keeping your discipline consistent can really help your children cope as it gives familiarity and structure to their lives when so […]
In this Divorce Step By Step video I discuss the importance of what the children think as you go through the divorce process. You may be surprised about their take on events. Talking & more importantly listening and being there for your children at this time of huge change is important. I created my ‘Divorce […]
Most parents don’t know the options that are available to divorcing couples rather than the aggressive ‘Going to Court’ option. Most solicitors in fact don’t favour taking your case to Court as it is expensive and can be very damaging to everyone in the family, particularly your children. Mediation is a good option – and […]
Most parents don’t know the options that are available to divorcing couples rather than the aggressive ‘Going to Court’ option. Most solicitors in fact don’t favour taking your case to Court as it is expensive and can be very damaging to everyone in the family, particularly your children. Mediation is a good option – […]
In England and Wales, there are still only five ways to get a divorce and three of those involve living separately for at least two years. Divorce in the UK can be messy, drawn out and extremely painful for the whole family. But it doesn’t have to be like this. As Nigel Shepherd, chair of […]
I was recently working with a couple going through a divorce and they were also working out what to do about the business they had set up together over the last 15 years. Here is an article from The Wall Street Journal. ‘When entrepreneurial couples get divorced, there’s often at least one child that […]
“The Phoenix Stage.” Here are some questions to ask yourself if you think you’re ready for another relationship after becoming divorced or separated: Am I coping and content with my life at the moment? Am I living in the present or in the past? Have I learned to be alone without experiencing loneliness? Can I […]
I was delighted to have been interviewed by Scott Docherty, on how my role as a coach helps families through the challenging time of divorce. This is a series of interviews with CALM Scotland mediators and others connected with mediation. The interviews are hosted by Scott C. Docherty, an accredited lawyer mediator who practises in […]
One of the main worries of parents who are going through a divorce is how to tell the children about what is going to happen and what to actually say to them. Children naturally fear that they will lose one of their parents in a divorce or that their parents will abandon them. They also […]
Online Dating Scams: How to Tell If You Are Being Baited by a Catfish One of my lovely clients had been through the mill during her divorce but had ‘done the work’ on herself, analysed herself over time, turned the corner and was in what I call ‘The Phoenix Stage’ and decided to explore […]
