Putting your children first I’ve been recently working with a couple who are divorcing and we were looking at how to handle the new roles that both these parents now face whilst going through the transition. One area I discussed with them was accepting that their ex has a continued role to play in their […]
Christmas is a catalyst. I often find that I get many clients coming to see me after Christmas about how to separate after spending more time together at Christmas. Christmas acts as a catalyst for change and the New Year offers a new beginning for many. My article Handling Divorce Positively taken from my “Raising […]
If you missed it, last night on Fink Conversation Cards Facebook page we held a special Divorce Q&A Special with a great mix of divorce specialists. We had Sue Atkins from Sue Atkins The Parenting Expert, Nicola Ingram from Family Advisory Bureau, Chris Longbottom from Shoosmiths, Aleks Binder from Dads For Life and Nicky […]
I work with many parents going through separation, divorce or break up as I have a Coaching Programme called “Successful Separation” and recently I have been talking to Collaborative Lawyers about how they can often lessen the stress associated with this very painful process. I believe that “Divorce is a process – not an event” […]
I’ve been recently working with a couple who are divorcing and we were looking at how to handle the new roles that both these parents now face whilst going through the transition. One area I discussed with them was accepting that their ex has a continued role to play in their child’s life which is […]
I work with many parents going through separation, divorce or troubled times as I run a 6 week Coaching Programme called “Successful Separation“ and one of the areas I help parents explore first is the very important area of Communication. The way parents exchanged information, shared their emotions or made joint decisions in the […]
Going through a divorce is painful and brings with it soooo many upheavals from the heart wrenching process of separation, the legal complexities, moving out of your family home bursting with memories , financial burdens, childcare issues, social changes, and the list goes on. The bottom line is that divorce is an emotional experience that […]
1. Stop dwelling on the all the wrongs – who did what, who’s to blame and what you wish you had done differently. 2. Express & release your feelings, but don’t drown in them – give yourself a ten minute time limit – and make that a habit. 3. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you […]
This is the best article I have ever read on life after divorce. What Smart Women Do After Divorce by Alison Patton Family lawyer and mediator & author of the blog Lemonade Divorce The journey is a painful one, but the suffering is optional – and the reason I know this is because I have gone […]
I’m pleased to see that separating couples will be legally required to find out about ways to settle disputes away from the courtroom, under new laws currently going through Parliament. New figures show that 124,420 couples filed for divorce in 2012 but instead of potentially long and costly court hearings couples opted for mediation – […]
The thing is: Obstacles aren’t there to impede you from getting to your destination; they’re there to prepare you for it. Every moment of the waiting is preparing you for what you’re waiting for. Every person who breaks your heart is preparing you for the one who never will. And every challenge, detour, obstacle […]
I’ve been recently working with a group of parents going through the turbulent times of a divorce and I asked them to remember participating in or watching a tug-of-war competition. You like me can probably remember both sides sweating, tugging, pulling, wrestling and expending huge amounts of energy but not really getting very far […]
I have written many articles around handling divorce and break – up as I run a 6 week personal 1-2-1 coaching programme called “Separation – Putting Your Children First” because I always say that divorce is a process not an event, and having gone through this myself I know first hand how unsettling, terrifying and […]
As the clock slowly ticks towards a New Year and I look back at the last 12 months, & the last 21 years of my family memories – of bringing up my two wonderful children, fondly reminiscing about wrapping presents in front of the electric fire and putting talcum powder down as snow from Father […]
