Safe Spaces and Brave Faces: Navigating Domestic Abuse Challenges with Kids

I have just spent the morning having a fascinating conversation with Lucy Wade from ‘You Don’t Own Me’ – Bringing the conversation around Domestic Abuse out of the shadows and into the light of day.

Ask yourself honestly, would you feel comfortable talking about domestic abuse or even know where to look for support?

This podcast opens up the discussion and turns it into a conversation.

Sitting down with professionals who are open and honest, giving advice and talking frankly about the challenges all victims and survivors of domestic abuse face. From Cyber Stalking to Domestic Homicide, Lucy leaves no stone unturned. No statistics, no intimidation…..just conversation!

We discussed all aspects of domestic abuse in all its shapes & forms & guises.

We unpacked the affects it has on children & what to do about it.

We discussed self esteem, self confidence & breaking intergenerational patterns.

We discussed practical ways to support yourself, your kids & your family

Can’t wait for its release and I will add it to this post when it’s available.

So I have some ideas if you’d like to read them around supporting children through domestic violence and verbal abuse as they are crucial for their well-being.

Here are some practical tips:

Ensure Their Safety:

If immediate danger is present, prioritise the safety of the child and yourself.
Have a safety plan in place, including a designated safe space within the home.

Open Communication:

Create a safe environment for the child to express their feelings without judgment.
Let them know it’s okay to talk about what’s happening and reassure them that it’s not their fault.

Seek Professional Help:

Reach out to local support services, such as domestic violence hotlines or child protective services.
Consider involving a therapist or counsellor who specialises in trauma and child development.

Maintain Routine and Stability:

Stick to regular routines as much as possible to provide a sense of stability.
Consistency in daily activities can help children feel more secure.

Empowerment Through Education:

Teach them about healthy relationships and appropriate ways to express emotions.
Provide age-appropriate information about domestic abuse/ violence to help them understand the situation.

Encourage Expression through Art and Play:

Younger children may find it easier to express themselves through art or play.
Drawing, painting, or using toys can be therapeutic outlets for emotions.

Connect with Supportive Adults:

Encourage relationships with other trusted adults, such as teachers, friends’ parents, or family members who can offer support.

Be a Role Model:

Demonstrate healthy communication and conflict resolution in your own interactions.
Show them positive examples of relationships.

Monitor Behavioural Changes:

Keep an eye on any significant changes in behaviour, academic performance, or social interactions.
Address any signs of distress promptly.

Self-Care for Yourself:

Take care of your own well-being to better support your children.

Seek your own support system to navigate the challenges.

Remember, every child is unique, and these tips may need to be adapted based on their age, personality, and specific circumstances. If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals who can provide guidance and support.

I highly recommend you explore Lucy Wade’s website and podcast.

Bringing the conversation around Domestic Abuse out of the shadows and into the light of day.

https://ydom.co.uk/