How to Tame Your Temper
Posted by: Sue Atkins
In this episode:
- Tips for Helping Your Child Overcome Their Fear of Dogs
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Every parent gets angry at their kids sometimes.
It doesn’t help that there are always the endless pressures of life: appointments we’re late to, things we’ve forgotten until the last moment, health and financial worries and pandemic problems – the list is endless. In the middle of that stress, enter your child, who has lost their cuddly toy or homework, or is teasing & winding up their sibling, or is downright argumentative. And we snap.
Here are some quick tips:
- Set limits BEFORE you get angry. …
- Calm yourself down BEFORE you take action. …
- Press your Pause Button. …
- Listen to your anger, rather than acting on it. …
- Remember that “expressing” your anger to another person can reinforce and escalate it. …
- WAIT before disciplining. …
- Avoid physical force, no matter what. …
- Avoid threats.
- Respond don’t react
How to Tame Your Temper – Article by Sue Atkins
Practical Tips on How to RESPOND Rather Than REACT. My Pause Button Technique
Children aren’t alone in their fears; sometimes the problem is magnified because dogs can be afraid of children, too.
Here are some tips:
Helping Your Child Overcome a Fear of Dogs
First, understand your child’s fear. The first step to helping your child overcome fear of dogs is to recognise and accept that that their fear is there and is real.
Then, watch what you say. Be sure you’re not unintentionally creating — or reinforcing – your child’s fear of dogs with the words you choose. Things like ‘be careful – as he might bite you!’
Take puppy steps. There’s no reason to rush your child into face-to-face dog introductions. Take it slowly and gently. Gradually introduce your child to dogs, starting with picture books, TV programmes, and then from a distance.
Meet an adult dog, not a puppy. find a friend with a lovely adult dog, not a puppy. Like children, puppies are unpredictable & excitable & can jump up.
Learn a little doggish. a dog wagging its tail is relaxed and happy. So be positive and approach a dog with confidence.
Petting a dog. teach your child to pet and gently stroke the dog’s body instead of the more-intimidating head.
Prepare for the sniff and lick. Dogs check you out by sniffing you so prepare your child for that to happen.
Safe and happy interactions between kids and dogs have a lot to do with ‘talking & teaching’ your children to be gentle and respectful. So be sure your child to never push, hit, or tease a dog, or pull on a dog’s tail.
Finally, the most important thing: Teach your child to always ask first before approaching a dog they don’t know.
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