Cooking up a happy step family is like a slow burning casserole !

Stepfamilies have a bad image. Think of Snow White’s jealous stepmother or Cinderella’s ugly sisters or at the other end of the spectrum, picture the unrealistically positive stepfamily, such as the Brady Bunch. But real life is more complicated that either of those stepfamily models and stepchildren have to come to terms with lots of […]

Understanding The Stepfamily Cycle.

  The Stepfamily Cycle I have been working with a lovely family who are finding it hard to adjust to the changes that blending two families together brings. I always remind my clients that bringing together 2 separate families is a process and not an event, and it takes time and flexibility on everyone’s behalf […]

Skip the Silent Treatment: Address Conflict with Connection.

Lots of us withdraw at the first sign of conflict, suppress things, withhold things & wait for people to figure out what’s wrong with us, like a mind reader, instead of just being honest about what’s going on. It’s more helpful to ask yourself: ‘What am I actually upset about? What am I actually feeling? […]

7 Important Questions To Ask Yourself To Keep Romance Alive & Well.

Just relax and breathe deeply and slowly for a few moments and think about the most romantic, passionate, sensual and loving moments in your life. What were you doing….. seeing…… hearing and feeling in those magic moments? What would you be willing to do, or give up doing, to experience these beautiful moments regularly and […]

THE question to save your relationship.

As it’s Valentine’s Day just around the corner  I thought it would be a good opportunity to pause when you are stressed, frustrated, angry or tired and to just STOP and ask yourself: What would love do now ?