What Every Divorcing Parent Needs To Know To Make Sure They Are Getting It Right For Their Kids.

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Creating a Parenting Plan

Sitting down together with your Ex is never easy – but it is important for the sake of your children.

I work with many parents on the nitty gritty, daily practical aspects of creating your unique Parenting Plan, which I can help you create but here are some tried & tested tips on how to communicate more effectively that will really help.

Learning to listen:

  • Try to focus, so your attention isn’t divided. Put away your anger as well as your mobile phone!


  • It’s really a good idea to adopt a position of curiosity: you may think you know your Ex and will be disappointed by them, or think your Ex will be predictable in their attitude or answers but if you keep an attitude of curiosity you might be surprised or wrong about what you expect to hear.


  • Press your imaginary Pause Button and simply and completely LISTEN: if you are talking it means you can’t be listening and you really can’t do both at once. Think of the old saying ‘I have two ears and one mouth for a reason!’


  • Take your turn to talk after you’ve listened: you are more likely to be listened to if you’ve listened   well yourself.


  • Leave pauses and don’t jump into the other person’s pauses.


  • Adopt a ‘Business Like’ approach to the meeting as it takes the emotional charge out of the discussions.


The Magic of the ‘I’ Statement

Speak for yourself using “I” statements Phrase things in a way that is about what you think or have noted or want, not what you assume or know the other person does. For example: “I get angry when you ask me about my money in front of the children”. rather than “You always have a jibe at me by asking about money. You always do that and know I hate it”


I feel……

I think …….

I hope…….

I was wondering if it would be….. easier, better, more convenient …….

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