Is it OK for Kids to Taste Alcohol?
Posted by: Sue Atkins
In this episode:
Is it OK for Kids to Taste Alcohol?
How do you Teach Kids about Gender Equality?
40 Open-Ended Questions to Get Kids & Parents Chatting
Black, Jewish, Indian, Muslim, Hispanic and Latino Recommended Books for Children in #TheSueAtkinsBookClub
plus Sue in Conversation with Dr Alan Beggs Olympic Sport Psychologist on Growth Mindset and Motivation
Connect with Alan
Sue talks on BBC Hereford and Worcester about going back to school after lockdown
Talking to Kids About Racism, Early and Often & Why Britain’s First Black Animation, JoJo & Gran Gran Is So Important For Cultural Representation
26 Recommended Hispanic and Latino Books for Children.
20 Recommended Black Children’s Books
Children’s Books That Celebrate Muslim Culture.
Books to help children learn about Jewish culture and antisemitism.
30 Children’s Books on Indian Culture & Festivals
One of my big “things” as a parent and former teacher is about allowing children to solve problems and to come up with solutions creatively by themselves.
As one of only 4 global Parenting Consultants for Danone, I wrote many articles for them around autonomy and independence and I wrote a lot about open-ended questions.
Open-ended questions mean that you don’t rush in to rescue as you ask questions like:
‘Why do you think ….?’
‘What could you do …..?’
How could you …..?’
‘Why did you decide to draw a dragon?’
Closed questions just require a one-word answer or a yes or no
‘How was your day?’
‘Did you enjoy dinner?’
‘Do you like being a big brother?’
So I loved discovering Carrots are Orange 40+ open-ended questions – take a look 👉HERE
Listen to the full Interview HERE
Connect with Kavin
I read a depressing article in The Guardian about :
Guilt and fury: how Covid brought mothers to breaking point
Check out my Instagram feed bursting with ideas about how to make it better for girls and women and ways to talk about childcare, homework, chores, and equality in your home!
My Tips for helping your shy child during the days of Covid & beyond.
Social and academic interactions are via video these days so shy children are less likely to speak up on this medium where a dozen little voices are vying for attention.
It’s a good idea to alter the way you think about shyness, and teaching your daughter social skills – by doing this you can help her thrive after a difficult time of uncertainty with a more gentle approach – as she builds back her confidence.
Here are some tips for helping your shy child during the dark days of Covid:
Instead of telling her that she is shy, just explain to her that she takes more time to get comfortable with new people and situations. This will help remove the guilt she may be experiencing in relation to her shyness.
Avoid labelling your child as “shy.” When you label your child as “shy,” they might start to act out the “shy” role without making an effort to change. Instead of labelling, try to describe your child’s behaviour in other ways. For example, you can say, “Yasmin is thoughtful,” or “Aarush likes to observe what’s happening around him before joining in.”
Avoid overprotection: Try not to “overprotect” your shy child – instead provide them with plenty of opportunities to learn and practice their social skills while offering them tools and strategies to manage their anxiety.
Model speaking and acting confidently in situations yourself.
Use toys, stuffed animals, action figures, or dolls to role-play social interactions. Get the toys to use specific phrases, such as “Hi, my name is …,” and “Can I play too?”
‘Talk & Teach ‘concrete skills, like taking deep breaths when your child is feeling nervous.
When you see your child attempting to engage others, point out and praise their efforts.
Set goals for your child to encourage interactions, such as looking at and smiling at someone. Try to set goals that will be a challenge, but that they can manage.
Try using books: Books featuring characters struggling with shyness are a great way to normalise your child’s experiences and to teach them new ways to overcome their challenges. There are some reading suggestions in 👉 The Sue Atkins Book Club
I CAN Believe in Myself, by Miriam Laundry. It’s about a girl whose shyness impedes her ability to engage with kids in school.
Buster the Very Shy Dog, by Lisze Bechtold. A great story for dog-loving kids about a pooch working to overcome shyness and deal with other animals’ bossiness.
Maya’s Voice, by Wen-Wen Cheng. Great for children who struggle to talk and find their voices
Too Shy for Show-and-Tell, by Beth Bracken. About a little guy who’s too shy to participate in show-and-tell and how he overcomes this fear.
Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverted Kids, by Susan Cain. A book for parents of shy children.
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