How DO You Deal with A Fussy Eater?
Posted by: Sue Atkins
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Friendship & playing together is a skill that can be taught.
Clearly explain what good friends do – they do kind things for one another and use kind language, they help out when a friend is sad or has a problem, they share.
There are so many amazing friendships portrayed in children books so read stories around friendship & talk about the characteristics of a good friend helpful, thoughtful, supportive, generous, good listener, etc with your child.
Ask what happens when she plays with others so you can help her learn to negotiate, compromise or understand how to handle conflict or take turns.
Role play some of the situations so she can practice at home to gain more confidence.
Family meals are such a great learning experience for young children and a really lovely place to chat, connect and build memories that last a lifetime.
We sometimes forget this as busy Mums and Dads but it’s around the family dinner table that children of all ages, learn how and what to eat. They do this by observing, listening, and copying what you eat, how you talk about food and how you act around it.
Often kids get your attention if they kick up a fuss and of course as we all know – any attention is better than being ignored! So, what’s starts out as being a fairly unimportant issue around refusing food, or turning their nose up at it, quickly turns into a battle and a dreaded time of the day!
Some quick tips are to RELAX, offer food in small quantities – like on a spoon & don’t pile it up and offer new foods with favourites – if they don’t like it – leave it and offer it again another day – you know what kids are like! Some say you have to offer a new food 15x !! but whatever the science – don’t give up too soon – and don’t hand all the power to your toddler or young child!
Tips for defusing the power struggle:
Set realistic expectations.
Change up the menu.
But don’t make separate meals.
Give kids options you want them to eat.
Separate behaviour issues from fussy eating.
Involve kids in meal preparation
Don’t ban sweets, help kids manage when and how they eat them.
Some children on the spectrum don’t like the texture of food and like firm favourites.
Many children who have autism experience great anxiety as mealtime approaches. The underlying reasons can include sensory aversions and fear of unfamiliar foods. Inadvertently, families can make the anxiety worse by trying to force a child to eat, setting up a pattern of mealtime stress.
Here’s a great guide from the National Autism Society.
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