The Sue Atkins Wednesday Parenting Story to Ponder
Posted by: Sue Atkins
Here’s today’s story from my never ending notebook and everlasting coloured pencil.
A woman is out walking one night and comes upon another woman down on her knees looking for something under a streetlamp. The passerby inquires as to what the other woman is looking for.
She answers that she is looking for her lost keys. The passerby offers to help and gets down on her knees and helps her search for the keys. After an hour of fruitless searching, she says, “We’ve looked everywhere for them and we haven’t found them. Are you sure that you lost them here?”
The other woman replies,” No, I lost them in my house, but there is more light out here under the streetlamp.”
• So what is this story teaching you today?
• Is it time to stop looking outside yourself for the answers to why you haven’t created the family life and results you want?
• Who produces the quality of life that you lead ultimately?
• Where are you giving away your power?
• Who is 100% responsible for the results that show up in your life?
• Where are you blaming others in your life?
• Who are the people, things, institutions, or circumstances that you blame outside yourself?
• How could you make a small shift in your mindset and attitude to change that perception?
• What would that give you?
• How would that make you feel?
• How are you playing the victim in your family life or life generally?
• How can you take more responsibility for your own happiness?
• How can you teach your kids to take 100% for their lives and the direction of their own dreams?
One of the problems of modern living is the myth that we are all entitled to a great life – that somehow, somewhere, someone (certainly not us) is responsible for filling our lives up with continual happiness, money, blissful relationships and constant excitement.
But is that true……. ? Is it realistic……?
In my study of successful parents over the years there is a common trait running through their family life.
They take 100% responsibility for the quality of their relationships with their kids and they consciously choose how they handle things – the ups as well as the downs.
They also take responsibility for the results they produce – the state of their family’s health, physical fitness, or success at school as well as teaching their kids about a positive mindset, respect for each other and respect for other people and authority.
But it’s not easy!
Most parents blame their own upbringing, their parents, their partner, their past teachers, their lack of money, their lack of education, the government or the economy or the even the weather!
But as Jim Rohn,America’s foremost business philosopher and one of my personal favourite speakers says:
“You must take personal responsibly. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go.”
Is it time to stop looking outside yourself for the answers to why you haven’t created the life and results you want and to just decide right here and now to do something about that?