Let’s Ditch The Label & Handle Bullying. Episode 32 of The Sue Atkins Parenting Show.
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Bullied relentlessly for years at school Liam Hackett has gone on to become the founder and CEO of equality and anti-bullying charity Ditch the Label. They have grown rapidly into becoming an international movement and a lifeline for thousands worldwide.
They are one of the largest pro-equality and anti-bullying charities in the world.
Their award-winning work spans across the UK, USA and Mexico; promoting equality and empowering people aged 12-25 to overcome bullying. They are a digital charity, which means that most of their support is provided online through their website and partnerships with games and social networks.
It is estimated that every 3 minutes somebody will benefit from their support.
I asked my truly inspiring friend how Ditch The Label came about, what they provide for 12- 25 year olds, and what makes them different to other bullying charities & what advice to give young people who find themselves suddenly being bullied, cyber bullied or taunted for being different. I ask him about his fascinating award-winning research and findings around bullying & his amazing Award-Winning Campaigns that create real societal change with EA Games, Lynx, boohoo.com to name only a few.
Watch Ditch The Label ‘s video to expose the most common lies that people tell on social media that’s been downloaded 44million times.
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I always remind my clients that bringing together 2 separate families is a process and not an event, and it takes time and flexibility on everyone’s behalf to settle into new family relationships.
It’s about managing your expectations and keeping the lines of communication open.
It’s also about building bridges not walls between each other and being patient.
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This Journal is designed to support open and honest communication and to help children feel heard, understood and supported during a time of great upheaval.
Suggestions for Parents
It’s very important to explain to your child that this is a different kind of book. This is a Journal where your child can share their feelings and thoughts or simply process what’s happening to them for themselves. It won’t be marked, they won’t be judged and it is totally up to them how they use it.
Young children may need to have the Journal read aloud to them and to do the Journal little and often.
Some children prefer to write and draw in their Journal at their own pace and in their own time. They may enjoy picking and choosing the order in which they write in it. Let your child decide for themselves how they’d like to use their Journal. They will enjoy feeling in control of the process and exploring their thoughts.
Help your child to decide a safe place to keep their Journal.
Let your child know that they can write in their Journal whenever they like.
Make sure your child has plenty of writing and drawing materials available. It’s also a good idea to buy new pens and pencils to make the Journal important and special. It helps to make the process of writing in their Journal important.
If you are reading the Journal with your child and doing it together, pick a quiet time, turn off the TV, and put away your mobile phone. Choose a private place, create a safe space and focus on really listening to your child without interrupting or making them feel judged, or guilty about what may come up. This is about helping your child feel heard, understood and supported while they go through this life changing event. Be accepting and non-judgemental. There are no right or wrong answers to their feelings and experiences. Accept everything and ponder and reflect later about what you discover.
B.L. Bettner and A. Lew (1989, 2005), Raising Kids Who Can, Newton Centre, MA: Connexions Press.
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