Do you prefer your children to be showboaters rather than Einsteins ?
Posted by: Sue Atkins
I’ve been interviewed on BBC Three Counties Radio today about a new survey that suggests mothers prefer children to be showboaters rather than Einsteins.
Intelligence is low down on the list of personality traits mothers would most like to see in their children, a survey has shown.
Rather than raising a little genius, the majority of mothers hope for a child who is the life and soul of the party, researchers found.
Of 142 British mothers polled, just 10% rated intelligence as the most important child characteristic.
More than half (51%) put extroversion, the trait that describes people who are sociable and outgoing, at the top of their preferences.
Conscientiousness was even less valued than intelligence, with just 9% of mothers citing this as the number one trait.
For the study, mothers were asked to choose from the “big five” personality traits recognised by psychologists, extroversion, conscientiousness, agreeableness, neuroticism and openness to new experiences.
A 10th picked openness as the most important trait while none picked neuroticism.
Co-author Dr Rachel Latham, also from Goldsmiths, said: “We focused on the views of mothers, as they typically spend more time with their children than fathers, but it would be useful to examine the personality values of fathers too.
“It would also be interesting to examine if mothers’ preference for extroversion changes over time as children grow older and enter formal education.
“In the long run we hope studies such as these can help us to understand how parents’ values shape a child’s personality and how this impacts on how children develop and learn and their future health, happiness, and success.”
Read the full article in News & Star
Lots of parents that I work with want their child to be confident rather than show-offs or show boaters.
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