The Sue Atkins Wednesday Story To Ponder for Parents

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Posted by: Sue Atkins


 Here is a true story from my never ending notebook and everlasting pencil taken from Chip and Dan Heath  the authors of Made to Stick and the soon-to-be-released book Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard.

“A troubled teenager named Bobby was sent to see his high-school counsellor, John Murphy.

Bobby had been in trouble so many times that he was in danger of being shipped off to a special facility for kids with behavioural problems.

Most counsellors would have discussed Bobby’s problems with him, but Murphy didn’t.

MURPHY: Bobby, are there classes where you don’t get in

BOBBY: I don’t get in trouble much in Ms. Smith’s class.

MURPHY: What’s different about Ms. Smith’s class?

Soon Murphy had some concrete answers:

1. Ms. Smith greeted him at the door.

2. She checked to make sure he understood his assignments.

3. She gave him easier work to complete. (His other teachers did none of the three.)

Now Murphy had a roadmap for change. He advised Bobby’s other teachers to try these three techniques. And suddenly, Bobby started behaving better.

We’re wired to focus on what’s not working.

But Murphy asked, “What IS working, today, and how can we do more of it?”

You’re probably trying to change things at home or at work. Stop agonising about what’s not working.

Instead, ask yourself, “What’s working well, right now, and how can I do more of it?”

So what has this story got you pondering ……. ?

How can you focus on what you do well and get right and focus on what IS working well more often?

What will that do for you?

How will that make you feel?

So what’s stopping you?

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