The Dance of Intimacy – Keeping The Glow With Your Partner

  This week will be all about Valentine’s Day and can be a time of great romance or great pain. Many people put their children first and of course while this is necessary and honourable is it at the expense of your own relationship? I remember a great friend of my Mum and Dad’s Nuala […]

Keeping The Glow – After Having Kids. The Sue Atkins Wednesday Story

  In keeping with this week’s theme on romance and relationships, here’s today’s story from my never ending notebook and everlasting pencil. The pioneering biologist Bruce Lipton found that the cells in your body are always in one or two modes: protection or growth. Basically, in fear–mode or in love-mode. Whenever we feel threatened or […]

If you really loved me I wouldn’t have to ask !

Keeping the Glow with your Partner. Do you want more attention, more respect, more help with the kids, more hugs, more romance, more surprises, more time together, more intimacy, and more fun? Someone to babysit, iron the shirts, help make the dinner sometimes or hang up the towels in the bathroom? Then ask. “But I […]

How To Survive & Thrive on Valentine’s Day as a Divorced Woman.

  I have a client who is going through a divorce and is feeling maudlin about Valentine’s Day. ‘Valentine’s Day is hard enough’ she said ‘when you’re couple & married’ (talk about pressure!) — ‘but when you’re going through a divorce it’s going to be hell!’ So I’ve been pondering how to have fun on […]

Skip the Silent Treatment: Address Conflict with Connection.

Lots of us withdraw at the first sign of conflict, suppress things, withhold things & wait for people to figure out what’s wrong with us, like a mind reader, instead of just being honest about what’s going on. It’s more helpful to ask yourself: ‘What am I actually upset about? What am I actually feeling? […]

7 Important Questions To Ask Yourself To Keep Romance Alive & Well.

Just relax and breathe deeply and slowly for a few moments and think about the most romantic, passionate, sensual and loving moments in your life. What were you doing….. seeing…… hearing and feeling in those magic moments? What would you be willing to do, or give up doing, to experience these beautiful moments regularly and […]

THE question to save your relationship.

As it’s Valentine’s Day just around the corner  I thought it would be a good opportunity to pause when you are stressed, frustrated, angry or tired and to just STOP and ask yourself: What would love do now ?