THE TODDLER ROADMAP SERIES: Episode 6 – How to Tame YOUR Temper & Stop Nagging!

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Show notes:

In this episode you’ll learn about ‘The Monkeys Are Jumping Strategy’ and ‘How to Handle Anger Positively’ and I’ll give you my ‘Practical Tips on How to RESPOND Rather Than REACT With My Pause Button Technique’

In this episode:

  • How to release your feelings healthily
  • How to manage your anger
  • If you have a Habitual Anger and what it is

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Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/anger

There, you can find a full article on the topic, videos that summarise the different elements and links to any tools or resources we’ve pointed out. You can also drop us a comment there and get involved in the conversation.

Again, that’s www.toddlerroadmap.com/anger

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So how do your release your feelings healthily?

One way is to press an imaginary internal ‘pause button’ (like the one on your TV Remote Control) and ask yourself ‘What exactly am I annoyed about?’ This helps you step back from the situation – getting you back in control and helping to calm yourself down.

You will probably discover that you get wound up by the same things over and over again and this is a great opportunity to ask yourself another empowering question. ‘What would I like to see happen in a perfect world?’ as this helps you start focusing on a new solution to your frustration. Relax and start to breathe slowly and deeply – this takes the edge out of the anger. You need to focus very specifically on what it is you want to see happen. This gives you clarity and direction and helps you pass this on to your children who don’t often understand what exactly it is you want them to do.

Anger Management Strategies

If you feel like screaming and shouting at your kids, then your own anger has probably been building up for a long time. A helpful strategy is to look in a mirror and imagine talking to the other person as if they were looking at you in that mirror. Imagine them sitting calmly, attentively and in a relaxed state listening to you properly. Tell them exactly how you feel – speak truthfully – explain all the frustration, anger, hurt or disappointment. You can even try to imagine a rainbow going between you, bridging the gap of misunderstanding.

Habitual Anger

Maybe you’re a person who’s been angry for a long time or a major part of your life? I call this ‘habitual anger’ because you’ve got used to behaving in this way, so it’s become a habit. Habitual anger is trying to tell you something – ask yourself some deeper questions.

  • Why am I choosing to be angry all the time?
  • What am I doing to create these situations time and time again?
  • What is it that’s making me angry?
  • Who am I really angry at?
  • What do I believe about my life that causes all these frustrations?
  • Is this the only way I can react to life?
  • What could I do differently?
  • How could I feel more in control of my life?
  • What new skills do I need to learn?

Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/anger

There, you can find a full article on the topic, videos that summarise the different elements and links to any tools or resources we’ve pointed out. You can also drop us a comment there and get involved in the conversation.

Again, that’s www.toddlerroadmap.com/anger


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Coming up next week we’ll be looking at biting – why your toddler might do it and what you can do to stop it quickly and easily.

Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/anger

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