THE TODDLER ROADMAP SERIES: Episode 5 – Self-Regulation

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In this episode we will be looking self-regulation and I’m in conversation with Award Winning International Early Childhood Consultant and Author of ‘Self-Regulation Skills in Young Children’ Sue Asquith over on my Parentverse podcast – this is a podcast when I dig a little deeper and where I chat to global experts from around the world on all sorts of subjects related to raising happy, confident, resilient kids.

Self-regulation is the ability to understand and manage your own behaviour and reactions. Self-regulation helps toddlers learn, behave well, get along with others and become independent.

Self-regulation begins to develop rapidly in the toddler and preschooler years. It continues to develop into adulthood.

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In this episode:

  • Break down big activities, that are difficult for your child to handle, into smaller more do-able  steps.
  • What is Self-regulation.
  • Why self-regulation is important.
  • How and when self-regulation develops.
  • How tantrums happen when toddlers are overwhelmed by ‘big’ strong emotions.
  • Some practical ways you can help your child learn and pratise self-regulation.

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Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/selfregulation

There, you can find a full article on the topic, videos that summarise the different elements and links to any tools or resources we’ve pointed out. You can also drop us a comment there and get involved in the conversation.

Again, that’s www.toddlerroadmap.com/selfregulation

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Helping toddlers and children learn and practise self-regulation

Here are some practical ways you can help your child learn and practise self-regulation:

    • Work on your child’s skills for understanding and managing emotions.
    • Use calming down strategies for toddlers like using a ‘Calm Corner’ not a Naughty Step – just a quiet space to calm down for a moment or two – use it as a positive not a negative experience.
    • Plan for challenging situations where it might be hard for your toddler to behave well. For example, ‘The shop we’re going to has lots of things that can break. It’s OK to look, but don’t touch the things as they might break’. Give your child a gentle reminder as you enter the shop. For example, ‘Remember – just looking, OK?’
    • Praise your toddler when they show self-regulation and manage a tricky situation. For example, ‘You were really great at waiting for your turn today in the park’, or ‘I liked the way that you shared with Joe when he asked’.
    • Try to model self-regulation for your child. For example, ‘I’d really like to keep reading, but if I don’t stop now I won’t get to the shops on time.’
    • It’s important to match your expectations of behaviour to your child’s age and stage of development. This can help your child avoid the frustration that comes with not having the skills or understanding to do what they’re asked.

 

Practicing mindfulness can help with self-regulation. Mindfulness teaches kids how to focus on the present instead of the past or the future.

Studies show that the benefits of mindfulness for kids include:

  • Increased focus, attention, self-control, classroom participation, compassion.
  • Improved academic performance, ability to resolve conflict, overall well-being.
  • Decreased levels of stress, depression, anxiety, disruptive behaviour.

 

Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/selfregulation

There, you can find a full article on the topic, videos that summarise the different elements and links to any tools or resources we’ve pointed out. You can also drop us a comment there and get involved in the conversation.

Again, that’s www.toddlerroadmap.com/selfregulation


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