SAPS91 Are you a full-time working parent & exhausted? Here are some ideas to help. We discuss what happens to kids in a divorce plus Sue is in conversation with Deborah Khan author of ‘She’s Back’ a fresh, pragmatic and above all useful guide for every woman returning to work.

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This week’s episode of the Sue Atkins Parenting Show is sponsored by Rayden Solicitors

Rayden Solicitors are hosting a seminar on the subject of ‘Supporting Teens and Tweens’  

Wednesday 10th October 2018 @ 6.30 pm 

The Town Hall, Berkhamsted

Full details are below in the Sponsor Section of the Show Notes


In this week’s episode: 

Are you a full-time working parent and exhausted? Here are some ideas to help

We discuss what happens to kids in a divorce

Plus … 

Sue in Conversation with Deborah Khan, author of ‘She’s Back’ a fresh pragmatic and above all useful guide for every woman returning to work

To hear the full interview click here

Connect with Deb Khan 

Website – She’s Back

Twitter – @shesback

Facebook Group – She’s Back

Instagram – @shesbackuk


She’s Back – Supporting Women in the Work Place

Promoting Women

We connect and advise women. Our Facebook Group gives members access to an engaged and supportive community. We build capability and connect women with new opportunities, such as the Reignite Academy in the legal sector.

Training and Coaching

We provide one to one or group training for women and for line managers, using the principles, strategies and tactics explored in our book. Topics covered include building your personal brand, overcoming limiting beliefs, managing a successful return, networking, ruthless time management and how to negotiate.

Writing and Speaking

As well as our highly acclaimed book, we regularly write for a number of blogs, websites, periodicals and online forums. We speak at events on all matters relating to women and work: the gender pay gap; returning after a career break; developing women’s careers; enabling women to fulfil their potential.


She’s Back: Your guide to returning to work

Women’s careers twist and turn. Women step back or step away for so many reasons. Then, let’s face it, returning is tough.

Whether you are coming back after a break, or looking to ramp up a level, this book is an essential guide and helps you succeed.

You’ll learn the truth about how the recruitment market really works; how to craft a narrative that explains your value; mobilise a network to support your ambitions and find work that will work for you.

Examples of real women’s struggles and winning strategies provide inspiration and will enthuse you about how to make your own comeback.

Lisa and Deb draw on years of research across several different sectors and their experience of working with and listening to the stories of thousands of women to provide a fresh, pragmatic and above all useful handbook for today’s fast evolving job market.

“In a world of #MeToo and Time’s Up, She’s Back. And so are you.”

You can purchase this book from the link below:

She’s Back – Your Guide to Returning to Work

Reviews

A must have guide to get more women back into the workplace.’ – Arianna Huffington

If you’re a professional woman who wants to unlock your potential this book is a must-read.‘ – Sarah Wood, OBE

‘This is an important book about an issue that could scarcely be more contemporary. The spirit of She’s Back is the spirit of the age. Read, or be left behind.’ – Matthew d’Ancona

Amazon Reviews

‘She’s Back is an essential read for anyone looking to return to work after a break. I wish I had read it during my maternity break years ago, as I certainly would have taken a longer term view to some of the decisions I made then with regards to my career. The book is truthful, I came away with practical ideas to follow up on and it is also reflective. It is an extremely thought provoking read, as the authors challenge the reader to question what it is they really want from work, to consider all options and to think through decisions carefully. I work with postnatal mothers, and this is a book I will be pulling themes from to discuss with them, and in addition will be using it in my own career decisions too’.  Ninx;)

‘This is a fantastic book. Although it’s targeted at returning women, it is filled with practical, helpful tips for anyone who has had a career break. The authors have woven in real life stories from women who have returned to work. These are brilliant because they are so varied, relatable and inspiring. They aren’t just stories of ‘women who have it all’; they show the ups and downs that go alongside returning to work. There is an excellent chapter on ‘Staying Back’ which I think is very important (and often overlooked – I’m a Career Coach so it is something I often see clients find difficult). Once you’ve gone back to work, the first few months can feel tough while you and your family adjust. This chapter prepares you for this and helps you realise it is normal to find the first few months hard going (but that it will get easier). Another favourite part of the book for me is a handy ‘Other Resources’ section. This means I now have a list of useful books to add to my reading list.’ Fay W.

‘My type of book – the style avoids any kids of bush beating or walking on eggshells. It cuts to the heart of issues with no apologies or sentimentality. For change to happen it needs this kind of bold, brash and unforgiving celebration of all women have to offer. Essential reading for any HRD/COO/CEO’ Mrs Lucy C Standing


Our Show Sponsor – Rayden Solicitors

Why are Rayden Solicitors hosting a seminar on supporting teens and tweens?

Parenting tweens and teens can be challenging, stressful and sometimes upsetting. During the teenage years your children are maturing at an alarming rate with hormone shifts and developmental leaps causing havoc on their bodies and emotions.

In a 2016 survey for Parent Zone, 93% of teachers reported seeing increased rates of mental illness among children and teenagers and 90% thought the issues were getting more severe, with 62% dealing with a pupil’s mental-health problem at least once a month and an additional 20% doing so on a weekly or even daily basis.

As family law experts, we often deal with clients who are concerned that their relationship breakdown may have consequences for their children. Combined with the fact that almost every tween or teen will experience anxiety about school, homework, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, gender issues, exams, we felt that an explanation about different strategies that can be employed would be of benefit to all parents. We have therefore asked a number of therapeutic experts to discuss supporting teens and tweens.

You can book your place at this seminar via Eventbrite

Rayden Solicitors is an award-winning specialist firm of Family Law solicitors. We advise on all aspects of family law including: divorce and relationship breakdown; financial disputes and issues concerning children; as well as pre and post nuptial agreements and gay marriage. We have grown to be the largest family law firm in Hertfordshire and our clients are based across the county, in London, throughout the UK and internationally.

The firm combines specialist knowledge and experience with a cost-effective approach that recognises the individual needs of each client.

To book please visit Eventbrite


Connect with Rayden Solicitors

Website

Event Page

Facebook

Twitter

LinkedIn

Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A

Q. What happens to my children in divorce?
A.

The family court does not become involved with the arrangements for children unless you and your spouse cannot agree on where the children live and how the children spend time with you.

The court encourages parents to try and agree the arrangements for the children directly or with the help of mediation.

Other issues that arise between parents include choice of school, medical treatment, relocating abroad or the child’s surname, which if they cannot be resolved directly, you can apply for an order from the court.

When the court considers an application relating to a child, the most important consideration is the child’s welfare and what is in their best interests.

Please read this article below: 

Divorce Without Damage – Your Parenting Plan

Further products from my online shop that support you and your children during separation and divorce

The Divorce Journal for Children

This journal is designed to help children express, explore and understand some of the strong emotions that they may be feeling and to help them process the divorce for themselves. Keeping a Journal is a very simple, but powerful way to support children.

As caring adults, we can help by simply acknowledging & listening to how a child may be feeling, without trying to “fix it”.

This Journal is designed to support open and honest communication and to help children feel heard, understood and supported during a time of great upheaval.

Questions Children Ask About Divorce. Conversational Cards.

‘Talking about Divorce’ – Legal Conversation Cards To Prepare You Before You Engage A Lawyer.

Co-Parenting Positively After Divorce. Conversational Cards.

Handling divorce positively (MP3)

1-2-1 Divorce Support for Parents Going Through Family Conflict, Separation or Break Up

6 Week Coaching Programme – Supporting Children Through Divorce

Also, I have devised a special eCourse, available FREE of charge for members of Parenting Club OnlineDivorce Step by Step

Remember … Members of my Parenting Club Online receive a discount from all my products and services

Here is a lifetime discount code for membership

Q. Dear Sue, I’m a full-time working Mum & I’m exhausted. Any ideas to help? Marianna Russo from Denver.
A.

Well, I think it helps if you see time as your friend and your most precious commodity.

Just pause for a moment and think about the words and phrase you use to describe time.

Do you say you spend time, lose time, save time, value time, kill time, waste time, let time slip away, take time for granted, squander time or can’t find the time.

Or do you say you use time, spend time wisely, value time, organise your time, treasure time, schedule or plan time, or make time.

It’s all about the way you view it and parents with a sense of more balance in their work-home situations find time, make time and plan time with their kids.

The secret is balance and recognising that time is your most valuable resource when you have kids regardless of their ages and we all have 24 hours in day so it’s about where you prioritise your time and how you ring fence it.

So, let’s look at some simple steps to mastering your time:

The key thing is to make good choices and develop good habits with time.
A successful life is really no more than a string of successful days – so why not start today to become more successful in managing your time

Architects and builders have drawing plans, pilots have flight plans. Business executives have business plans, coaches have game plans and teachers have lesson plans. So why don’t parents have “parenting plans”??

Some people call it a “to do” list or a list of priorities for the day – some life coaches call it daily goal setting which all sounds a bit pretentious and hard going to me so call it what you like but whatever you call it get into the habit of doing it and build in time for your children and family.

Of all the positive things you’ll ever do investing your time in your family and your kids even if it’s 10 minutes a day will pay off a thousand times in good will, affection, love and appreciation from your children.

Here is an article that will help you further:

Manic Mums and Dazed Dads

Also, here are some products from my Online Shop that you may find useful

The business owners family survival toolkit (MP3)

Weighing up your work life balance – the ultimate toolkit.

Also I have devised a special eCourse for members of  my Parenting Club Online – Work/Life Balance 

Remember … Members of my Parenting Club Online receive a discount from all my products and services

Here is a lifetime discount code for membership

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