SAPS 84 Why A Half Hearted ‘Sorry’ Doesn’t Teach Your Children Anything.
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This week’s episode of the Sue Atkins Parenting Show is sponsored by The Worrinots
In this episode we discuss:
Why A Half Hearted ‘Sorry’ Doesn’t Teach Your Children Anything
7 Quick Stress Busters for Kids
Role Models for Daughters
Sue on the Radio … Mothers and Daughters
Our Show Sponsor ‘The Worrinots’
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Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A
Why say sorry?
- Nobody is perfect
- We all have bad days when things go wrong and we feel like the world is out to get us
- We all do stupid things without thinking at times
- We all make mistakes
- We all have accidents
When you should say sorry
Saying sorry can help put things right when:
- you have hurt someone or their feelings
- say sorry when you have hurt someone’s feelings
- you have lost or broken something belonging to someone else
- you haven’t done something you were supposed to do
- you did something you were not supposed to do
- you told a lie
- you let someone else take the blame
- you passed on cruel gossip about someone
- you chose to break a rule at home or school
- you let anger be the boss of you
- your actions have put someone into danger
- you have got someone into trouble.
These are just a few examples of when you know you’ve done wrong, and saying sorry is the first step to putting things right again.
We all get mad at ourselves sometimes and take it out on our family and friends.
It’s important to find out what’s behind your daughter’s behaviour and figure out what she can do to make it up to whomever she has hurt.
It can be embarrassing to say sorry.
No-one likes to think that they are in the wrong.
Saying sorry can be hard
Your daughter may feel:
- feel really nervous about it
- feel bad about herself
- feel mad with herself
- feel that saying sorry won’t make any difference as you’ve said or done something to hurt someone or their feelings
- feel that the other person won’t want to forgive you or accept your apology
- forgive others when they say they are sorry
- feel like saying sorry isn’t really important
- feel that you don’t want the other person to feel that he or she has any power over you by giving them the choice to accept or reject your apology
- feel like the other person should say sorry to you. Maybe you could start by saying “I feel sorry about what happened, what was said or what was done. Maybe we could talk about it and sort things out.”
- Saying sorry may not fix everything right away. It may take some time before everything is ok again.
- Maybe you could do something nice for that person – like making mum a cup of tea, tidying up without being asked or helping your brother or sister do something.
- Sometimes the other person may never want to forgive you. That’s their business.
- If you have said sorry and you are showing by your behaviour that you are trying to make things better, then that is all you can do.
Here’s my article:
Why saying ‘Sorry’ doesn’t always teach your children anything
- Get physical – walk, run, star jumps, play, ride a bike, kick a ball.
- Talk about it – let things out – don’t bottle stuff up
- Watch something funny to release endorphins and ‘feel good’ vibes
- Play with a pet, stroke a cat, play with the dog, gerbil or rabbit
- Listen to music
- Draw or colour-in
- Meditate – mindfulness apps or do yoga
Make your own personal list with Georgia so she has some things to fall back on.
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