Why Do Teens Lie?
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In This Episode :
Why Do Teens Lie?
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Sue’s Tuppence Worth
I have been seeing a rise in parents contacting me about their children not coping with the aftermath of Covid19
I’ve been working with a family where their 6-year-old is having lots of meltdowns and has started hiding – just some of the unusual behaviours that reveal a child’s distress – as we all still have to adjust to the aftermath of the pandemic.
This global pandemic is an invisible enemy, a prolonged quarantine is wrecking children’s sense of ‘normal’
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Red Flags to look out for:
Be sensitive to either you or your child experiencing new levels of the following partial list of red flag warnings:
– Sleep disturbance with or without nightmares
– Withdrawal from previous interest or interaction patterns
– More aggressive
– A decline in grooming/overall hygiene
– Boredom, loneliness, fear, anger, frustration, pessimism, sadness, etc.
– Regressive behaviours, e.g. baby talk, dependency, bed wetting
– General lethargy
– Mood swings
– Self-harm or talk of suicide or hopelessness
– Excessive focus on being distressed
Targeted parenting calls for active involvement, communication and coordination between parents, and most importantly, engaged listening. It is so important to “meet your children where they are” in their level of understanding, feelings, fears, frustrations, hopes, dreams and needs. How much do they understand about either crisis we face right now? Assume nothing, ask, and begin a conversation without judgement.
Talk to your child about things that don’t matter. It is great practice and will establish an open line of communication to talk about things that do.
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- The importance of play
- The Sue Atkins Why Kids Need Rules Checklist
- The Sue Atkins Appropriate Age and Stage Screen Time Checklist
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Raising happy, confident, resilient children is not easy. It’s messy, complicated, exhausting at times, and overwhelming. It’s about handling every emotion there is – and sometimes we all need a little support, guidance, and a champion to believe in us as parents, as we navigate the choppy waters of bringing up happy adults.
When young people enter their teenage years, parents often wonder: “Whatever happened to the truth – where did my innocent little girl/ boy go?” Not that their little child was always honest, ( remember ‘I didn’t do it – he did!’ ) but their teenager seems more prone to lie by leaving out the complete truth or by deliberately bending the truth or blatantly lying.
Why do children and teenagers and people lie?
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