SAPS 151 – Are we raising a generation of fragile, nervous, over anxious, needy kids who will be scared to take on and embrace the challenges of Life?

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In This Week’s Episode :

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Sue in Conversation with Paloma Forde

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Sue’s Tuppence Worth on ‘Cotton-Wool Kids’

Are we raising a generation of fragile, nervous, over anxious, needy kids who will be scared to take on and embrace the challenges of Life?

Children’s stories on television are stripped of adventure and risk, according to two of Britain’s most popular children’s authors, as they warned against the “overprotection” of young audiences.

Julia Donaldson and Sir Michael Morpurgo will see adaptations of their books on the BBC this Christmas. Donaldson’s The Snail and the Whale is to be shown on Christmas Day, followed by Morpurgo’s Mimi and the Mountain Dragon on Boxing Day.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/12/10/childrens-tv-sanitised-say-julia-donaldson-michael-morpurgo/amp/

I was on BBC London discussing Cotton Wool Kids as Michael Morpurgo says kids are too cosseted & he is involved with Farms for City Children charity.

He said: “In our project, in the countryside, there’s always an element of risk and decision-learning on how to be sensible. But we get crowded in by regulations, which make it difficult to let children have exposure to the countryside.

“I’m not suggesting they climb 30ft trees, but it’s OK to jump across a ditch, fall in, get muddy. We mustn’t limit them… The more children are exposed to the world, the better.

“Dirty is good, falling over is good. I have this scar on my knee where I fell in the playground. They put on iodine and sent you home. No fuss. The more children are exposed to the world the better.”

Well, I don’t know about you but I loved riding my bike up and down my road waiting for my Dad to come home, making mud pies using flowers as potatoes, and hanging upside down from a great tree on Streatham Common but apparently parents have become so overprotective that just one in ten children get to play regularly in parks, fields and woods, a poll shows.

A survey commissioned by Natural England found a generation of youngsters is being deprived of the innocent, natural and healthy pleasures of tree-climbing, pond-dipping or making mud pies.

Yet 81 percent of children said they would like more freedom to play outside.

Just one in 10 children play regularly in parks and fields, even though most want more freedom to enjoy the outdoors

Even when they get to do so, only 20 percent say they are allowed to spend time without an adult in close attendance.

Experts warned that anxious parents are raising a generation of ‘cotton-wool kids’ who are denied the independence, experience and education that comes from exploring the outdoor world.

I work with a lot of parents who are rather over-anxious, and of course, we need to protect our children, but it’s all about finding a balance isn’t it, because if we are not careful there is a real danger that we will pass on our fears on to our children, resulting in a generation of fragile, nervous, over-anxious, needy adults who will be scared to take on and embrace the challenges of Life.

I think we are doing our kids a disservice if we overprotect them – and we rob them of the opportunities to play, learn and grow up with self-confidence, and strong self-esteem earnt by exercising their own independence muscles. We need to teach, talk, nudge and encourage them to be independent and resilient.

See Sue’s Article

‘Cotton wool kids – so what’s making YOU paranoid?’

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Here is one of my tips for Brushing Teeth! – check out more on my @SueAtkins18 instagram feed 😊

If you’ve ever found yourself chasing 🏃‍♀️ your child up and down the landing, brandishing their toothbrush and pleading with them to brush their teeth, then you’re not alone. Kids not brushing teeth is a common problem!

A recent report revealed that almost half of all parents have to force children up to 11 years of age, to brush their teeth. 80% of those youngsters throw tantrums as they do so.

1 in 10 parents reported being so fed up and demoralised by the daily brush-time battle, that they end up giving in completely and send their children to bed without cleaning their teeth at all.

But we do need to get them into good habits early so ….

Try this fun way to boogie while you brush!

Play ‘guess the song’

Stretch out brushing time by brushing your own teeth and, at the same time, hum or sing a song as you brush together.

Your child then has to guess which song it is. You swap roles and let them sing as they brush, while you guess.

Before you know it, more than the required two minutes will have flown by and you can rest assured your child has brushed thoroughly while being distracted by the game. 😊

Take a look at my latest Mummy Diaries video about dental care here with Billie & Greg https://sueatkinsparentingcoach.com/2019/12/my-disney-junior-parenting-hacks-around-dental-care-with-billie-and-greg-from-the-mummy-diaries/

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Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A

Q. Dear Sue I really need to find out how to teach my 2 year old to spit out toothpaste! She mimes spitting but ends up swallowing it all. Any suggestions? Emma Hart Milton Keynes
A.

Hi Emma,

That’s very common! She’s very young 🤗 If your baby or toddler does swallow some of this small amount of toothpaste, it’s okay. As long as you’re using the recommended amount of toothpaste, swallowing a little bit shouldn’t cause any problems. 😊

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends using a pea-sized amount of fluoride toothpaste for children ages 3 to 6. Although it should be avoided if possible, it’s safe for your child to swallow this pea-sized amount of fluoride toothpaste.

It’s around 5or 6 they can manage it. I think that’s why kids’ toothpaste is marketed as suitable for infants-6yrs old. It has less fluoride in it.

Hope that helps 🎈

Sue

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