SAPS 149 – How to Teach Your Toddler to Get Dressed by Themselves
Posted by: Sue Atkins
In This Week’s Episode :
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Why Dads Matter in Divorce
It’s coming up to that dreaded time for lots of divorced or separated parents…. Christmas.
Dads are crucial to raising happy, confident, well rounded adults – kids need their Dad involved in their lives – particularly teenage boys and kids from separated families
Too many fathers become convinced that they are simply an extra set of hands to help around the house, rather than irreplaceable to their children.
Divorced Dads can lose touch …..
Research about a mother’s role in child development abounds, largely because attachment theory gives a basis from which to conduct the research. No such theory exists for fathers, which may be part of the reason that the influence fathers have on their children wasn’t as well researched until recently, when researchers began to shift away from looking at fathers as the “other parent.”
Now, instead of viewing fathers only through the lens of what is known about mothers, researchers are looking at the unique and important ways fathers influence their children.
As a result of that research, it is now established that fathers play an essential role in the upbringing of their children. And they can be every bit as sensitive and nurturing to their children as mothers can. A father’s nurturing presence can continue to benefit children and help them develop cognitive, socially, and emotionally as they grow up.
There are three fundamental aspects of father involvement. These traits form the basis for a positive, nurturing father-child relationship:
Engagement: father’s direct contact and shared interactions with their children
Availability: father’s presence or accessibility to their child
Responsibility: father’s arrangement for resources to be available to their child
Father-child play is important for children because it is physical and highly stimulating, which allows the child to experience rough and tumble play. Mums and Dads have different approaches to play, and risk. It also helps children understand and test boundaries in a safe environment, which helps them in countless ways as they figure out the world.
- Sons without involved fathers are three times as likely to end up in the juvenile justice system than sons with involved fathers.
- Children with involved Dads are more likely to delay sex
- They do better in school
- They stay at their job longer
- They’re less likely to gender stereotype
Decades ago, we actually thought men were incapable of taking care of children, and women had to be the stay-at-home parent,” she said, “but today we realize that both men and women can be effective parents.”
Television adverts now show our changed attitudes toward involved dads. In ads decades ago, bumbling television fathers had to be saved by mum when it came to child care. Now, a father changing nappies and making meals is just part of the scenery.
An important resource for parents :
Divorce Journal for Children and my stacks of divorce blogs bursting with good advice for divorcing, divorced or separated families.
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Hope this helps,
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