How do I deal with my family at Christmas? Tips for Avoiding Family Fallout

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In This Week’s Episode :

How do I deal with my family at Christmas? Tips for Avoiding Family Fallout

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Simple Things to Say to Boost Your Daughter’s Self-Esteem—other than ‘You’re so Pretty!’


When all babies are born, people naturally love to comment on how beautiful they are. As those babies grow into children, however, it seems comments on boys’ looks become less frequent—while complimentary phrases for girls remain dominated by some variation of how pretty they are.

We can’t always change what other people are saying to our kids, but we can make sure they know that they’re more than just pretty. And with one recent study finding girls as young as nine wanted to be “small” and conform to beauty ideals, helping them recognise their worth beyond their looks is incredibly important.

  • The first thing parents should do is examine your own behaviour to see if there are any non-verbal messages around body image.
  • Complimenting a little girl’s capability and competence instils a sense of confidence at an early age.
  • Sports help emphasise the strength, capability and social skills parents should complement their girls on. When girls are in a team environment, they’re very nurturing to each other, they’re very collaborative, they develop strength and self-esteem and confidence. So be specific in your praise for example:

‘You really handled the ball well ,’ or, ‘You were so fast,’

  • Tell her she’s makes you proud with her interests – Whether it’s guitar lessons, or school musicals, support her in seeking out interests that make use of her skills and be specific.
  • Don’t criticise your daughter for being ‘bossy’ – it’s called assertive, or leadership ?
  • Teach your daughter responsibility and encourage her to follow her dreams—while also helping her learn from her mistakes and instilling a good work ethic
  • Don’t get hung up on what your daughter wants to play, whether it’s police or princesses. While we may view one as traditionally female and another as male, to little kids, it’s all the same, so there’s no need to categorise. Just encourage her to pursue her own passions.
  • If we expect our daughters to make good decisions once they reach maturity, they will need lots of practice. Let her have an age-appropriate say in matters that affect her.
  • Don’t tell her it’s impolite & un-British to brag— celebrate her success with an enthusiastic, “Fantastic! All your hard work paid off.”



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Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A

Q. Sue, my Mother in law is coming over to stay for a few days at Christmas and it’s always a bit tense as she does things differently to me. She’s very nice but guess what? - the kids always ‘play up’ more when she’s around! Any tips? Fiona O’Doherty from Middlesex.

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As Harry & Meghan Choose NOT to Join the Queen for Christmas at Sandringham. How do YOU handle Christmas Family Fall Outs? Here Are My Tips

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