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Posted by: Sue Atkins
In this week’s episode
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Pressure can take away the pleasure of bringing up kids.
Sue’s tips on how NOT to let social media crush you.
A survey by mothers’ meet-up app ‘Mush’ revealed that while social media gives new mums a vital link to the outside world, it’s piling on the pressure to meet unrealistic standards.
The Evening Standard reported that glossy images both of celebs and of their own friends often made participants feel bad. Over 80% said Instagram and Facebook “added pressure to be the perfect mum”. Nearly 60% said Instagram gives them a ‘fear of missing out’, and 40% said it makes them feel anxious.
60% of respondents admitted to editing their own social media feed to present a more positive picture of their lives.
- Parenting is NOT a competitive sport
- Step back – ‘Pause to Ponder’ is what I’m looking at an idealised lifestyle – I’ve been working with The Mummy Diaries and Nelly certainly feels the pressure & she’s only 5!
- Am I getting sucked in?
- Will my kids thank me for posting and plastering their personal photos around the internet to feed MY need for significance?
- Shouldn’t some things just stay private – eg Jo Swash telling his Instagram following that he’s tasted Stacey Solomon’s breastmilk.
- Are my comments on social media – push ups or pull downs? Am I watering a weed or encouraging a flower to bloom?
- Stay away from social media for a bit …. you won’t die!
Expert advice from 2 experienced parenting advisors who are both former Deputy Head teachers guiding schools, parents and children through the challenges and changes of transition.
Sue Atkins Parenting Club for Nannies
Ask the Nanny Expert Angela Johnson will be joining us in the Forum. She is Director of Nanny Services with The US Nanny Association & founder of ‘The Third Parent Academy’.
Keep a Lookout for Sue’s coming Webinars:
Parenting Wellbeing and Mental Health – tips for all caregivers
Nannies and Parents – The Ultimate Secrets to Effective Communication
Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A
Here are my tips on how to ensure your kids are stretched not stressed:
- Happy students make for better students.
- A certain amount of pressure is integral to learning.
- Study after academic study only confirms what common sense supposes – balance is key.
- But inflated expectations, whether held by school or parents or increasingly by students themselves, can be cruel taskmasters. Today’s youngsters have to cope with an online environment that can distract and diminish in equal measure, as well as academic pressure that has rarely been more competitive.
- ‘Be the Antidote’ – play board games, go bowling, get out in the fresh air all together walking the dog, invite their friends round to chill out, watch films and eat popcorn sometimes, schedule proper structured study time, take regular breaks, eat that frog ( do your least favourite subject first) listen to music, put away your mobile phone and DON’T listen to the swots who say they aren’t doing anything but who really are – help your child let pressure go over their head like to Red Arrows flying past – don’t pick up all the negative, stressful vibes of others.
Hope that helps!
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