How Do I Tell My Kids No?

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In this week’s episode

How Do I Tell My Kids No?

If you say no to your child, it’s important to show that you mean it.
  1. Give a Definitive Answer.
  2. Offer a Short Explanation.
  3. Make it Clear You Won’t Cave In.
  4. Follow Through With Consequences When Necessary.
  5. Deal With Your Emotions in a Healthy Way.
  6. Make Sure You’re Saying Yes Often.


Introducing Sue’s NEW #MagicalMomentMonday



Sue’s Tuppence Worth

There are magical moments in every day. We just have to take the time to notice them ~ Sue Atkins



I was coming out of my hotel room on holiday recently as a taxi driver was proudly finishing off waxing his black Mercedes carrier. It gleamed in the hot sun & I admired his hard work. He gave a wide and genuinely surprised smile, delighted with my compliments of having noticed the pride he had in keeping his black vehicle spotless despite the rain of Tropical Storm Karen.

We exchanged a simple few minutes chatting & I felt the warmth of connection & it struck me that life is full of ‘Magical Moments’ if we take the time to notice them, share them & celebrate them.

There are magical moments in every day. We just have to take the time to notice them ~ Sue Atkins

I see so many negative posts around social media about bringing up children. How hard it is, how tiring & demanding it is & how motherhood is a battle that needs to be endured or fortified with coffee, wine or gin.

It IS challenging. It is demanding. It is exhausting.

I know I’ve brought up 2 children.

But it is also magical, special, inspiring, life enhancing, joyful & the thing I am most proud of.

I thought it would be nice to hear your small, little magical moments that have brought joy to you around your family on a Monday. What better way to start the week – feeling grateful?

What are the things that made you smile, the simple moments of connection or pride, from riding a bike to learning to read. The sound of their giggles, the warmth of their hugs. The funny things they say – to the challenges they overcome.

I hope my #MagicMomentMonday will make you think what your magic moments might be, and appreciate them all the more when another comes your way.

Parenting is a journey to be enjoyed not a challenge to be endured.

I hope this simple idea will help you to become a more positive parent in some small way, that will make a big difference in your family life.

It would be lovely to see what makes you happy & what unites us, connects us, and brings us together around funny, special or unusual moments.

I’d love to hear your stories on my Facebook Page is

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Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A

Q. Dear Sue, I find it hard to say ‘NO’ to my kids. Charlotte is 8 and is becoming very demanding. Kicking off at home and when we’re out when she doesn’t get her own way. Can you help? Cathy Rosamond from Isleworth

Hi Cathy,

I’ve been recently writing quotes to go alongside my articles that will be published on the Danone website soon around the topic of “Autonomy” & rule setting. Coincidentally I’ve also been working with a group of Mums discussing how their children think they’re “mean” parents.

Chat about one of my clients this week around the same problem – been working on HER confidence

I’ve heard this from lots of parents from around the world over the years who have very different experiences but they all have one thing in common: they have great kids & I believe the reason that they have great, well balanced kids is because they set boundaries and limits, and they say “No” to their children.

They are their child’s parent – not their friend!

Whether it’s your toddler who’s deliberately dumped their lunch on the floor or an older child who can’t stop whining for one more game on their ipad before bedtime, it seems children repeatedly challenge the boundaries we as parents set for them. It’s what kids do who are growing up and becoming independent. So many parents I work with get discouraged about establishing, and enforcing, family rules and boundaries, and even question if it’s really worth the all the hassle & effort.

It’s tiring, exhausting and challenging raising kids but it’s also one of the most important jobs you can do in the world.

Take a look at some of my resources, which you will find helpful in this situation.

My articles

Saying “NO” to your kids with confidence!

Why kids need rules – here’s a checklist to help.

 My products

BOOKS – 1. Parenting Made Easy book and my 2. Raising Happy Children for Dummies book – chapter on quick and easy tips to get kids to do as they are told without shouting

MP3 Downloads

The Secret to Well- behaved Kids

Kind regards,


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