SAPS 133 – Teachers forced special needs child to make a list of his faults!
Posted by: Juliette
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Autism hit the news again.
A 10-year-old boy with special needs who complained of bullying was forced by staff to listen to classmates listing the reasons they didn’t like him – and had to write these on a hand-drawn poster that was then stuck on his classroom wall. The photo is hauntingly awful ☹
In a case that campaigners say highlights the need for specialist teaching resources, Damian Lightoller’s son, who has traits of autism, ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder and is on the special education needs register, was told by his peers he needed to “stop shouting”, “stop annoying us” and “be happy, not sad” if he wanted to have better relationships with them.
The incident, which occurred last year at Allenton Community Primary School in Derby.
YES, YES, YES, – teachers, parents, and police all need training in how autism can manifest itself in all sorts of ways.
The wrong way round – ‘My son sought help from a teacher, and rather than discipline the other children for bullying, the teacher blamed the victim and said ‘well you need to not do this, this, this and this’.
No child should be singled out and made to feel unwelcome at school. Many children with SEND experience mental health difficulties, developing anxiety about school attendance and being excluded from education.
It’s vital schools seek early specialist advice on how best to support children with special needs without undermining their self-esteem.
I know the National Autistic Society has a Guide for Police as a wonderful resource to refer to and The Autism Toolbox for Teachers from the Scottish Government
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Your child may be either frightened by or very sensitive to the feeling of water splashing in her face and the tug of the comb through her hair. Kids who have this kind of tactile (touch) sensitivity tend to react to a range of sensory experiences, finding certain clothes uncomfortable and itchy, or disliking seams on their socks and tags in their shirts.
For hair washing, you can use a handheld sprayer or support her as you lean her head back into the water — like at the hairdressers. There are also bath visors (sold at baby stores) to keep the water off your child’s face. And you might introduce regular water play into your daughter’s routine so that she can associate bathtime with fun, positive experiences.
For hair brushing, try wide-tooth combs and lots of detangling solution or conditioner to make combing a bit easier. Distract her with a favourite interesting toy to play with. You can also give her a brush she can hold onto or use to comb a doll’s hair or a stuffed animal’s fur.
If all else fails, decide whether combing her tresses is an absolute necessity or if you can let grooming go for now. For children with fine, silky hair, it won’t matter much, while kids with coarse, thick locks that tangle easily will need more attention. As your daughter gets bigger and can help out with this task — feeling more in control of what happens to her body — she will likely be less resistant.
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It’s a phase – you wait till she’s 14!
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