How Do I Talk To My Kids About Their Wellbeing?

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In this week’s episode: 

How Do I Talk To My Kids About Their Wellbeing?

When to Start Disciplining Children

How to Turn Down the Stress and Pressure Around Exam Time

Plus … 

I am in Conversation with Dawn Mitchell, Founder of ‘We Do Wellbeing’  to listen to the full interview, please click on the link below: 

Sue in Conversation with Dawn Miller


Here are 19 questions to ask your child to help support their wellbeing

1. Who are the people you feel safe with?

2. Is there anything you want to talk about?

3. When was the last time you were very happy?

4. What makes you feel calm?

5. If you could change anything in your life what would it be?

6. What difficulties are you facing now?

7. What can I do to help?

8. I can tell that you like ___, what do you love so much about it?

9. Where is a place you feel safe?

10. Do you have any worries about starting a new school?

11. What are you most looking forward to this week?

12. It’s okay to keep stuff private, but did you want to tell me more about ___?

13. How are you coping since ____?

14. What are you worried about when you lie in bed and can’t sleep?

15. What are you dreading most this week?

16. How do you feel about things changing?

17. Is there a lot of picking on people at your school?

18. Is there anyone who is upsetting you?

19. How do you feel about growing up? What’s exciting and what’s scary?


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Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A

Q. Good day, I have a 16 months old baby and expecting another one in September... at what age do I start disciplining my oldest? Les Lesego from Incline Village Nevada in USA

Dear Les 

Thanks for reaching out to me as this is a very important topic – disciplining children without harming their self-esteem or confidence. 

Here are some of my resources that I hope will help you

The Behaviour Blogs Part 1 ~ Do you find disciplining your children difficult?

My Series of Articles:  The Behaviour Blogs Part 1 – 9; here is the first in the series, you will be able to follow them through… 

MP3: Positive toddler taming

Many parents dread the “Terrible Twos”. From toddler tantrums, bedtime battles and aggression, to clinginess and insisting they will only eat off the yellow plate! The problems you can face in just one day with a toddler are vast. But it doesn’t have to be so hard. With the right tools and techniques you can make raising your toddler less stressful and start enjoying spending time with your child once again.

MP3: The Secret To Having Well Behaved Kids

Whether they’re fighting, shouting or climbing all over the furniture, it’s easy to feel like a failure when your kids misbehave. If you’re stressed out, exhausted and at your wits end with your children, don’t panic. Having well behaved kids is possible, no matter how challenging they may seem. You just need to know the secret.

I also have a range of resources available to members of my Online Club including: 

My Parenting Masterclass: Parenting Made Easy Toddler System

Raising happy confident children start from day one. This Parenting Masterclass will give you advice, tips and techniques to help you get your child on the right start as you work through the toddler years where they are finding their feet.

Webinar: Getting Your Little Darlings to Behave

Whether they’re fighting, shouting or climbing all over the furniture, or embarrassing you in restaurants it’s easy to feel like a failure when your kids misbehave!

In this webinar we look at ….

  • All age groups from babies to teenagers and how to discipline them POSITIVELY
  • Helping you to understand your child’s behaviour and help you to set appropriate, positive boundaries.
  • Tried and tested techniques that really work that will help you to feel less-stressed, more relaxed and more confident in your own ability to raise happy, confident, resilient children.

You will learn the real secrets to having well behaved kids!

Webinar: Terrible to Terrific – Taming Your Toddler’s Tantrums

In this webinar we are going to look at how to cope with your Toddler’s Tantrums; This includes:

  • Why Kids Have Tantrums
  • Avoiding Tantrums
  • Tantrum Tactics
  • After the Storm

We will be exploring ways for you to handle your child’s growing need to become more assertive, more independent and more of an individual.

Plus … 

Quick Win Video’s, further articles and Expert Interviews plus exclusive Podcasts

Hope this helps! 

Love Sue

Q. Hi Sue, how can I help daughter with exam stress? My 16-year-old daughter is doing her GCSE’s this year and the stress in beginning to build up already. Though she generally does reasonably well in exams, she is getting herself into a state worrying about them (I don’t think her friends are helping her as they all seem to be hyping it all up) but at home she’s constantly saying she can’t do this or she can’t do that – that there’s not enough time and she’s worrying about failing, letting us down and embarrassing herself. It feels like we are all walking on eggshells & I feel at a bit of a loss at what to say or do to help her. Do you have any tips on helping her manage her stress? John Barry from Wigan.

Dear John

Thanks for reaching out to me, Exam nerves and stress are an important area that as parents we need to deal with.

Young people and teenagers can feel enormous pressure about studying and exams and frequently experience significant signs of stress. These signs can include: anxiety, irritability, disrupted sleep and negative thinking.

The trouble with stress is that not only is it unpleasant, but it also makes the problems worse.

Stressed teenagers find it even harder to study effectively, even if they are spending long hours trying and stress can reduce their performance when it comes to actually writing exams.

Your question also highlights the effect of stress on the wider family. Many parents have spoken to me about how they are organising life around their “exam stressed” young people and sometimes it sets the tone for other children in the family.

As well as listening to and supporting them about their concerns, it is also important to identify and name the stress they are under and shift the conversation to one of managing the stress as well as addressing the study problems.

This might mean saying: “You have got really stressed and this is getting in the way of you of studying effectively, let’s look at ways to address this”. Sit down and make a plan with your daughter ways to reduce the stress – not listening to her friends negativity, walking the dog, going to the gym, meditation, listening to music, playing a game as a family …… getting a balance

Here are some of my resources that I hope will help you further. 

Article: Practical Tips for Successful Revision & How to Support your Child’s Mental Health This Exam Season

MP3: Exam Success Made Easy

Whether your child is heading for their SATs, GCSEs or A levels, exam preparation can be stressful, overwhelming and just plain boring. With most exams occurring just as your child gains a little freedom, they can easily feel frustrated and unmotivated, preferring to be out with their friends or on their Xbox. But with the right tools, strategies and techniques your child can learn how to balance their work and play, study effectively and get the best grades they can without all the battles, stress or worry.

Hope this helps, but if you need any further advice or support, please do not hesitate to contact me 

Love Sue

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