SAPS 105 – Why Babies Cry in the Bath & What You Can Do About It.

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In this week’s episode

Why Babies Cry In The Bath & What You Can Do About It

Myths About Perfectionism & How To Help Children

#FamilyFun ‘ING’ Activities – The Antidote to ‘Too Much Screen Time’ 

Plus … 

I am in Conversation with Jo Fitzgerald of Tiny Sponges – to listen to the full interview, please click on the link below:

Sue in Conversation with Jo Fitzgerald

 


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Website – Tiny Sponges

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Cold Toes at Christmas

Families come in all shapes and sizes. Holidays are often when we try to be together, but it’s not always possible.

In some cases, one or more parent is working over Christmas – nurses, police, sailors, and many more. In other cases, families that once were together are now living apart. In these cases, children may look at Christmas with sadness and longing. But there is hope!

In this delightfully illustrated story, Grandma tells her little ones about a Christmas she remembers, when she was very young, in her home far away. She was feeling sad and lonely and knew her Mum was sad too. She wanted things to be better – and if you throw a wish up to the sky, who knows what might happen?!

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Mumpreneur On Fire 4: 25 Inspirational Real Life Stories From Empowered Women

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Mumpreneur on Fire 4 is the much anticipated follow up to #1 bestseller Mumpreneur on Fire 3 released in late 2018.

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Don’t Stew – Ask Sue Parenting Q & A

Q. Dear Sue, my Health Visitor told me that bathing my baby at bedtime will help him settle to sleep but he cries all the time. What advice can you give me? Lisa, Kettering
A.

Dear Lisa

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1. The flow of Water into the Eyes
Toddlers are not savvy with the concept of shutting their eyelids as a reflex to avoid foreign bodies from getting into the eyes. The continuous flow of water can be an irritant and make the baby cry.

What You Can Do
Use a head visor to protect the eyes and avoid pouring too much water on the face.

2. Rashes or Sores that Burn
If your baby is suffering from rashes or sores, contact with water and soap can alleviate the burning sensation and can sting, resulting in discomfort to the child.

What You Can Do
Avoid applying soap and excessive water on affected areas and wait until the rashes subside to begin full bathing regime.

3. Uncomfortable Water Temperature
Perhaps this is the most common reason why do toddlers hate bath. Newborns are highly sensitive to change in temperature and water that is too cold or too hot can make them instantly uncomfortable. Body temperature, which is around 37 degree Celsius is the best temperature to bathe your baby.

What You Can Do
Check the temperature of the water by using your elbow or use a thermometer to have an accurate reading. Dip your baby slowly into the water to allow them to get used to it.

4. Hunger
Hunger could be another reason for your baby to cry while bathing. If the baby is not properly fed, it is likely to irritate, especially while bathing.

What You Can Do
It is essential to feed the baby and wait for 30 minutes to 45 minutes before taking them to a bath to allow the food to get digested.

5. Fear of Soap
Selecting the right soap for your toddler is crucial. Soaps might cause skin irritation, or the child might have a fear of soap entering the eyes and creating a burning sensation

What You Can Do
Consulting a doctor is the best way to assess your little one’s skin type and the soap that will be most suited for the same. Use soaps and shampoos specially made for toddlers and avoid using those made for adults.

6. Your Baby is Already Tired
While bathing is supposed to relax the child, it might be counter-productive if the kid is already too tired and ready to sleep, especially if the bath routine is just before bedtime.

What You Can Do
Try to advance the bathing routine to a little before the usual bed-time. This will not disturb your baby’s sleeping routine.

7. Unaccustomed to Water
Everything is a first time experience for a newborn and bathing is no different. The feel of water touching the skin might make the baby uncomfortable.

What You Can Do
Get the baby used to water by starting with sponge baths and slowly progressing to regular bathing schedule.

8. Uncomfortable Bathing Area
Things which might seem immaterial to us can be a cause of concern for the babies. The temperature of your hand when you hold the baby, the room temperature in the bathroom, the presence of dust, allergens in the bathing area can all lead to the baby getting irritated and in turn starting to hate bath time.

What You Can Do
Ensure that the bathing area is warm and free of dust. Make sure to warm your hands before holding the baby.
Nothing trumps the comfort and safety of your child. It is therefore critical to be cautious and sensitive towards the baby while bathing. Like all other things, your child will get used to this slowly and hence sufficient time should be given to the baby before getting too anxious about their reaction to water.

However, if your baby continues to remain upset during bath time, it is best to consult a doctor or your Health Visitor on possible reasons for the reaction and the most viable solution for the same.

Q. Dear Sue, my daughter Amber is really, really self-critical. She’s bright, able and doing well at school but her agonising over her homework is getting worse as she writes, rewrites, and re does things over and over in order to make them ‘perfect’ – What can we do as I’m really worried about her Sarah Rosamund from Pinner in London
A.

Dear Sarah

Here is an article I have recently written that you might find useful …

I’ve been working with a perfectionist – but he’s only 5 years old!

The Crazy Eight
This is a situation in which there is a clash between two opposing forces. Those two opposing forces are in battle with each other and they are: avoiding your greatest fear and pursuing your greatest desire.

For a perfectionist their Number 1 goal is to move towards perfection. They want everything they do/be/have to be perfect, however, the definition that they have defined for what perfection is, is so unattainable that they can never achieve it and as a result it sets off their greatest fear (the greatest fear all people share) the fear that they are ‘not enough’ not worthy of being loved and accepted for who they are.

Strive for excellence, rather than perfection.

Try & help your child Strive for excellence, rather than perfection.
Perfection is something that happens for a certain moment of time. Even greatest artists and athletes & those who nail a 10/10 routine in every competition, can’t do that for the rest of their lives. There’s a peak performance time for all outstanding athletes, footballers, song writers or performers. For others, perfection happens fleetingly, as it’s not a constant state that can be maintained.

However, excellence can be maintained throughout life. Committing to always ‘Doing your best’ takes commitment, courage and dedication and that’s the measuring stick that your child could apply instead of perfection. So, ‘Talk & Teach’ them the difference.

  • Remember things and areas of life that don’t need to be perfect to be excellent: Family and friendships for example.
  • Help your child to see mistakes as natural, and all part of learning & growing in experience, because perfectionists consider mistakes to be personal failures or weakness.
  • Become aware of their negative self-dialogue. Help your child to get to know the negative voices in their heads and to say to the harsh and critical voices ‘Buzz Off’ ( for more of my powerful techniques to help your child take a look at my ‘Can Do Kids Journal for Super Heroes’)
  • Practice self-compassion.‘Talk & Teach’ your child to be compassionate with themselves, so fear of failure is not exaggerated so mistakes are understood as being a natural and normal part of learning and life.
  • Take the time to examine whether their goals and expectations are attainable.
    If they are not, help them to give themselves permission to change them.
  • Break goals down into smaller steps. To prevent overwhelm and overload break the tasks or goals down into baby steps to reduce anxiety.
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