THE TODDLER ROADMAP SERIES: Episode 3 – How to Handle Toddler Tantrums?

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In this episode you’ll learn how to handle crying, whining and genuine distress and the dreaded TODDLER TANTRUM. You’ll discover my practical ways to avoid them, handle them positively and get over them quickly and also be given unique access to my free downloadable Behaviour Diary to help you to work out and spot your child’s tantrum triggers so you can avoid them!

In this episode:

  • The Coronavirus Generation. How To Prevent It Damaging Your Toddler.
  • The Best Toddler Apps That Teach Letters, Colours, Shapes, and Numbers.
  • Fun Books to Read to Your Toddler About Throwing Tantrums😊
  • Has Tech Taken Over in Your House – Is This the End of the Bedtime Story?

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Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/tantrums

There, you can find a full article on the topic, videos that summarise the different elements and links to any tools or resources we’ve pointed out. You can also drop us a comment there and get involved in the conversation.

Again, that’s www.toddlerroadmap.com/tantrums

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Tantrums usually happen around the age of two or three but as children are all individuals, and don’t follow a handbook, tantrums can happen at any time before or after that age.  In fact, many children continue to have the occasional tantrum until they’re five or six, but by this age it’s much easier to reason with them and talk things through.

These outbursts are often called temper tantrums, because of the obvious link with angry feelings that are out of control, but there are other strong emotions your toddler could be feeling as well.

It’s really important to recognise the triggers for a tantrum, because if you can do this, you’ll be able to head off the inevitable angry outburst before they blow into unmanageable volcano – like eruptions!

Try and assess when they happen most often, is it when you are at the shops, when you are on the phone, when they are hungry, bored, cold or when you are just not being attentive enough?

If you know when they’re likely to happen, it makes sense to try to avoid those situations if possible, so you can fend off and pre-empt the tantrum before it has time to explode.

It’s important to remember throughout the whole tantrum episode to remain cool, calm, collected, and completely in control at all times, which is really difficult when the whole of the queue at Tesco’s is watching you, but you need to be the adult, giving security and safe boundaries to your child while they are out of control.

It’s a good idea to notice your child’s Tantrum Triggers as that helps you pre-empt them

  • Frustration – happens when they are not able or capable just yet, of doing something that they want to do i.e.  doing up their coat buttons, reaching the loo, or tying their shoelaces. It may also come from not being able to make you and other people understand what they want.
  • Their desire for independence – simple things such as strapping your child into their highchair, buggy or car seat or helping them cut up their vegetables can seem, from their point of view, like a deliberate attempt to take away their independence so they will sometimes fight you over these small but really important issues.
  • Hunger and/or tiredness – your toddler is more likely to behave badly and “go into one” when they feel hungry, thirsty, or tired.
  • Being refused something – you may have said “no” to a biscuit or taking off their jumper or they may have a tantrum when another child won’t share their toys or game with them.
  • Wanting attention – most toddlers just love to be the centre of attention, and any attention is better than none, even if it is negative attention. They may have found being naughty gets your full attention and they have unconsciously learnt that this is a great way to get the attention they are craving.
  • Overload – there are days when your child may be on a roller coaster of emotions and a tantrum will be an inevitable result of not being mature enough to cope.

To download my free “Behaviour Diary” which will help you to work out and spot your child’s tantrum triggers go to =>

https://www.toddlerroadmap.com/free-training-1 so, you can avoid them!

There’s loads more tips, strategies, techniques and ideas to help you handle the Terrible Twos to turn them into the Terrific Twos !

There, you can also find a full article on the topic, videos that summarise the different elements and links to any tools or resources we’ve pointed out. You can also drop us a comment there and get involved in the conversation.

Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/tantrums


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In the next episode you’ll learn how to handle Separation Anxiety confidently and positively as I will be teaching you my simple and practical ideas to avoid teary and tantrum-filled goodbyes, while also giving you an understanding what your child is going through at this stage in their development.

Remember, if you want to review what we’ve talked about, check out the full Show Notes at www.toddlerroadmap.com/tantrums

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