Divorce is always difficult for the whole family but if you do find that you are heading for a divorce here are some things to consider if you have a child with additional needs. Things to Consider Divorce is a difficult time for all family members, but especially for your children. A child that has […]
How the news hits a three-year-old is very different to how a 15-year-old understands and reacts to the news – that’s why it’s important to include your teenager in your discussions around your contact arrangements where it feels appropriate, to avoid resentment building up between all of you. Of course, don’t hand over all the […]
One of the hardest things you will have to do as a divorced parent is to encourage your children to go with your ex when they don’t want to go, particularly as they turn into teens and want to spend more time with their friends. But as a parent I think it’s really important that […]
Putting your children first I’ve been recently working with a couple who are divorcing and we were looking at how to handle the new roles that both these parents now face whilst going through the transition. One area I discussed with them was accepting that their ex has a continued role to play in their […]
Your Parenting Plan This is an example of the sort of basic parenting plan that I help the parents I work with to create, as they go through the transition of divorce. It will help you think through the numerous issues related to co parenting your children from now on – it is designed to […]
Claire Colbert is the author of the Which Guide to Divorce and Splitting up (2010) and the Which Divorce Guide 2015 and is the co-chair of the Resolution Parenting After Parting committee. Going through separation and divorce and the transition can be very emotional and challenging. Family breakdown and family disputes are statistically one of […]
I was delighted to have been interviewed by Scott Docherty, on how my role as a coach helps families through the challenging time of divorce. This is a series of interviews with CALM Scotland mediators and others connected with mediation. The interviews are hosted by Scott C. Docherty, an accredited lawyer mediator who practises in […]
It is a hugely emotional time when you split up with your partner, and that makes it even harder to make sensible financial decisions. Rather than thinking through options and making a long-term financial plan, people often feel desperate to end the misery of an unhappy relationship as soon as possible. Although this is […]
The law affecting families in England and Wales is changing. The most important element of no fault divorce is, of course, the removal of fault or blame from the divorce process. Under the new laws, couples will be able to get divorced solely on the basis that the marriage has broken down, without needing to cite […]
I’ve been catching up on ‘Coldfeet’ before the new season starts as I never watched it the first time it was on, and what strikes me watching and following the lives of these 3 couples is just how untidy life can be. Relationships are never easy at the best of times. Despite all our best […]
Telling your children about your decision to divorce is never easy but with a little thought to when, where & what you are going to say will help lessen the impact for them. I have launched a new series of free Divorce videos called Divorce Step by Step. to help. I think it’s really important […]
Divorce is stressful for parents and children alike and although reactions will depend on a child’s age, temperament, and the circumstances surrounding the split, many children feel sad, frustrated, angry, and anxious — and it’s not uncommon for them to become naughty at home or at school because of those feelings. Fortunately, you can help […]
My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. One of the many questions I get asked when I am working with families going through a divorce is: “My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. Does that mean they are OK? “ Divorce is usually a difficult time for all family […]
Divorce is stressful for parents and children alike and although reactions will depend on a child’s age, temperament and the circumstances surrounding the split, many children feel sad, frustrated, angry and anxious — and it’s not uncommon for them to become naughty, angry or demotivated at home and at school because of those feelings. […]
