Sue in conversation with Lotte Stringer from Hector’s House
“The world has less colour now Hector has gone.”
Hector Stringer took his own life at the age of 18 on the 20 April 2011. Nothing can prepare you for the unbelievable pain and grief you feel after losing a loved one in such tragic circumstances. The ‘what if’s’ and the ‘if onlys’ that we live with every day can at times feel overwhelming. If only we had known how he was feeling…?
Hector lived life loudly. He had a beautiful soul, and as cliché as it sounds, his smile genuinely would light up the room as soon as he entered it. He was full of energy, with a personality that people were drawn to. The twinkle in his eyes always made him look like he was up to mischief – he probably was, but he was just having fun! You couldn’t be mad at Hec for long, his laugh was infectious, and he’d soon give you a massive bear hug.
He surrounded himself with a wonderful circle of friends. He would do anything for them and they would for him. Hector would go out of the way to make everyone feel special, his kindness and open heart came second nature to him.
Hector’s love for music was all consuming, he was talented musician and performer. He played guitar and sang. He was in a band and they would often perform in pubs and gigs – he loved it. Hector would spend hours in the shed at the bottom of the garden practising or listening to songs that inspired him.
His crazy sense of humour means everyone that knew him has unique memories that will forever be cherished.
“The biggest lie in the UK told is ‘I’m fine’ and I think that was one of Hector’s problems,
he never wanted to put his problems on anybody else. I wish he had done.”
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