The Behaviour Blogs ~ Part 5 Being A Best Friend
Posted by: Sue Atkins
Now if your parenting style is like ‘Being A Best Friend’ you believe that children like it if you act as if you are their best friend.
1. You believe that being nice and friendly makes your children like you.
2. You believe that your children are equal to you so you negotiate with them, you don’t tell them or direct them.
3. Your strategy is asking, negotiating, pleading followed usually by frustration, feeling cross, angry and un – heard.
4. You often hear yourself saying the words ” How many times do I have to tell you to be quiet, put your toys away or tidy your room?”
This leads you to fall into bed exhausted, frustrated and tired out trying to figure out why having kids is such hard work.
You also have begun to doubt your parenting ability and your confidence is taking a bit of a dip and dare I say it ….you’re not really enjoying your kids as it’s all a bit of a battle……?
Well help is at at hand…..
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Kids don’t need you to be their ‘Best Friend’ they need you to teach, guide, nurture and be in authority as they feel safe, secure and protected if you have some firm, fair and consistent boundaries.
Your children NEED a strong role model!
Your child will become confused if one minute you are their best friend and the next minute you are telling them to not raise their voice in front of you, go to bed or do their homework.
Be their parent not their friend.