This story made me cry from https://www.facebook.com/Womenem - the remarkable story of a mother’s love.
When Carolyn Isbister put her 20 oz baby on her chest for a cuddle, she thought that it would be the only chance she would ever have to hold her.
Doctors had told the parents that baby Rachel only had only minutes to live because her heart was beating once every ten seconds and she was not breathing.
I didn’t want her to die being cold. So I lifted her out of her blanket and put her against my skin to warm her up. Her feet were so cold.
It was the only cuddle I was going to have with her, so I wanted to remember the moment.” Then something remarkable happened. The warmth of her mother’s skin kick started Rachael’s heart into beating properly, which allowed her to take little breaths of her own.
We couldn’t believe it – and neither could the doctors. She let out a tiny cry.
The doctors came in and said there was still no hope – but I wasn’t letting go of her. We had her blessed by the hospital chaplain, and waited for her to slip away. But she still hung on.
And then amazingly the pink color began to return to her cheeks. She literally was turning from gray to pink before our eyes, and she began to warm up too.
The sad part is that when the baby was born, doctors took one look at her and said ‘no’.
They didn’t even try to help her with her breathing as they said it would just prolong her dying. Everyone just gave up on her,” her mom remembered.
At 24 weeks a womb infection had led to her premature labor and birth and Isbister (who also has two children Samuel, 10, and Kirsten, 8 ) said, “We were terrified we were going to lose her. I had suffered three miscarriages before, so we didn’t think there was much hope.” When Rachael was born she was grey and lifeless.
Ian Laing, a consultant neonatologist at the hospital, said: “All the signs were that the little one was not going to make it and we took the decision to let mum have a cuddle as it was all we could do.
Two hours later the wee thing was crying. This is indeed a miracle baby and I have seen nothing like it in my 27 years of practice. I have not the slightest doubt that mother’s love saved her daughter.”
Rachael was moved onto a ventilator where she continued to make steady progress and was tube and syringe fed her mother’s pumped breastmilk.
Isbister said, “The doctors said that she had proved she was a fighter and that she now deserved some intensive care as there was some hope. She had done it all on her own – without any medical intervention or drugs. She had clung on to life – and it was all because of that cuddle. It had warmed up her body and regulated her heart and breathing enough for her to start fighting.
At 5 weeks she was taken off the ventilator and began breastfeeding on her own. At four months Rachel went home with her parents, weighing 8lbs – the same as any other healthy newborn. Because Rachel had suffered from a lack of oxygen doctors said there was a high risk of damage to her brain. But a scan showed no evidence of any problems and today Rachel is on par with her peers.
Rachel’s mom tells us, “She is doing so well. When we brought her home, the doctors told us that she was a remarkable little girl. And most of all, she just loves her cuddles. She will sleep for hours, just curled into my chest. It was that first cuddle which saved her life – and I’m just so glad I trusted my instinct and picked her up when I did. Otherwise she wouldn’t be here today.”
These parents strip three-year-old son’s room of brightly coloured toys in an effort to help him sleep.
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One in three teenagers have felt so depressed that they needed help, a Daybreak survey has revealed.
More than one in six of the 11 to 18-year-olds who admitted to feeling this kind of depression said it lasted a few months, with 15% of young people having to take time off school as a result.
Just under a third of youngsters said their depression was caused by problems at home, while more than half said they would turn to friends if they felt depressed, however, the same amount would turn to food for comfort.
Five hundred young people participated in the anonymous Daybreak Teenage Depression Survey.
Symptoms of depression in teenagers can include
- Continuous low mood or sadness
- Voicing/showing feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
- Frequent tearfulness
- Being irritable and intolerant of others
- Apparent lack of energy or motivation, and little or no enjoyment of things that were once interesting to them
- Slowed movement or speech
- Changes in appetite or weight (usually decreased, but sometimes increased) frequent unexplained aches and pains
- Disturbed sleep patterns (for example, problems going to sleep and/or waking throughout the night, particularly in the early hours of the morning)
- Losing interest or being disruptive at school or playing truant
- Constantly complaining that they feel bored or lonely
For advice & help contact Young Minds
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As my regular readers will know I used to be a Deputy Head teacher and I also taught Reception Class children starting school.
So I was surprised to read about the rising number of children still in nappies when they start primary school.
Staff say they are increasingly forced to disrupt classes to change pupils or clear up ‘accidents’ because parents believe toilet training is a school’s job !
Er ……..”NO!” it’s the parents job !
Of course children need help with doing up their coat buttons & putting on their wellies but by 5 I expected the children to be able to go to the loo by themselves and of course children have the odd accident but I can’t believe kids are starting school in nappies !
Teachers also report that children are generally less independent, needing help with putting on coats and changing for PE. Some claim parents are too busy to teach their children basic life skills.
Almost two-thirds of 850 primary school staff polled said they had seen an increase over the past five years in the number of pupils wetting or soiling themselves.
The figure rose to 71 per cent among teachers working with three to five-year-olds, and some schools have been forced to put on parent workshops to help with toilet training.
The findings do not refer to youngsters with special needs or health problems.
Surely this is a basic life skill that children need to learn at home.
Don’t even get me started on how to hold a knife and fork as I was in a lovely school in Caterham the other day running my Confidence Classes for Kids Workshop and I popped into the dining hall and was appalled to see kids not using their knives and forks properly and it wasn’t just a few – LOADS of them had not been taught this basic skill either !
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